friend advice...?

davis chick · #1 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 04:30 AM

i have a friend thats 4 yrs older than me, she in her first year of college. she never replys to my emails..the only ones she does reply to are the rude and mean ones, saying that i was rude and hurt her feelings...i dont mean to be rude, but it seems like thats the only way to get her attention. i really, really dont want to loose her, but how do i get her to notice me without being rude? how do i, i guess get her to like me more..? anytime i just drop in to say hi or, ya know.. happy stuff, she ignores me. and dont say anything like shes busy from school, couse we already cleard that up. i just want some advice on how to keep our friendship alive, but not in a negative way..?

joedirte12345 · #2 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 09:22 AM

Well get another friend.

Shailesh K · #3 (**permalink**) 12-28-2008, 01:26 AM

Silly she isnt interested in you. Some people just prefer to ignore the clingy ones because they think that such people's company reduces their popularity.So try and be normal and be friendly with others in the meanwhile. Just wait and see if her attitudes change. Else its time to move on.

Surfdude · #4 (**permalink**) 12-28-2008, 08:34 AM

personally, i think your"friend"is not really your friend, if she was she would want to spend time with you as for the rude e-mails: it seems she just wants you to feel bad abd maybe cut her out of your life. I don't think she is a nice person. You could just get in her way so she has to talk to you and then tell her whats bothering you

momusmusic · #5 (**permalink**) 12-31-2008, 01:18 AM

Friendships are a two way street. Seems like it is all one way for your and her lane has road construction. She is older and in college, she has probably moved on to what she thinks is a new life. You do the same. If you really want to have her as a friend, then give her space to decide. Annoying her will push her further away if she is not away already. You are rude to her because you know she will respond, and any response is a good one right? Nope!!! Let it go, she will either miss you as a friend or you will see she doesn't miss you at all.

dreamgurlrocks19 · #6 (**permalink**) 05-20-2009, 11:48 AM

OK, well maybe when you e-mail explain your feels like this:"I am feeling that we are starting to loose touch, I think your amazing friend and I don't want to loose you as my friend. I understand you busy with school, but I would like if you would reply back sometimes."Something along those lines. I have a friend who is 6 years older then I am, we talk all the time. He come over to my place every week and we go to the local recreation center. I am 18 and he is 24 ... is the coolest person I know, he is my best friend.I don't think people should judge other by there age but by there intelligence and maturity.I hope you can work things out