Friend Advice?

anonymous · #1 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 05:07 AM

Should I tell my best friend all my pent-up emotions concerning her, including jealousy, annoyance, and frustration? Would it be better to open up my heart 100% to her or just keep it inside and not risk her taking offense? Because she seems to always unintentionally'steal my thunder'in a way. I want very badly to just stay friends and get past my bad feelings and not hide these things inside. She cares very much for me and I am grateful to have found such a loving fun companion... I feel terrible that I can't deal with her having the stoplight.Any advice appreciated. :-/

lola a · #2 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 06:15 PM

you should tell heri had a friend like thatit'll get worse if u keep it inside

WarDawg · #3 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 07:18 AM

Keeping things inside alway makes it worse because you're gonna end up hating her more and more every day. You should tell her how you feel in a way that won't offend her. If she's your true friend she shouldn't get angry at you for this and try and resolve the issue. If she does get angry at you, then she really is a spotlight stealer who wants all the attention to herself. If she is like that, then you should find a new friend.

hottstuff5678 · #4 (**permalink**) 05-16-2009, 12:56 PM

it really depends on what you want to tell her exactly. i would not bombard her with everything so that she does take offence. make sure there is a time that you two can talk without interuptions and tell her that you need to get something off your chest. tell her that you might say some things that may offend her but ask that she wait until you finish a section so that you can have a proper discussion about it rather than backing her in a corner with everything.write down points you want to address and stick to them. if an argument starts stick to the notes and keep a cool head because there is nothing worse that arguing and hurtful things are flung out just to inflict more pain that you feel.you two sound like you are good friends so it should not get too bad. if she gets upset explain that you dont want to hurt her and you are not intentionally doing it, but this is how you feel.there is nothing worse than waiting till you explode and hurting her becuase there is so much to get out.