My friend self mutilates and i need advice to handle the situation?

luvisuzu · #1 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 01:41 AM

My friend revealed to me during class the numerous amounts of cuts she had recently made 2 days ago. There were various types of cuts. One across the forearm and multiple cuts perpendicular to the arteries.She said she wanted to know how it would feel like to cut herself in a laughing manner and that she will stop. She also tells me how she hated school teachers, and the world. But she does it in such a laughing way. She also has made so many cuts that i wonder if her happy and laughing attitude would warrant me to shrug this aside. There are cuts on both wrists.Should I report her to my school psychologist or just pass this event like it never happened.. I need advice asap so i can make action asap.

crazyem · #2 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 07:36 AM

Don't just let it go. This is serious. It's a dangerous way to deal with things. But she's doing it because she's trying to deal with some intense stuff she doesn't know how to. She needs a professional to talk to and figure out how to better deal with things. Please mention it to the school counselor. You can ask that the counselor not say it was you who told.

el10uy · #3 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 07:21 PM

Report her ASAP. More qualified ppl will take over.

Daniel F · #4 (**permalink**) 12-12-2008, 12:48 PM

probably you should ask the school counselor what they think - your friend might just be trying it because they think it is'cool'but ask the counselors'advice.

FIREBIRD ESPRIT SKY BIRD · #5 (**permalink**) 12-12-2008, 09:10 PM

It sounds like your friend is asking for help. Be careful how you handle this, your friend could resent your"interference". That said, you do have to do something. I would first try offering to go with your friend to an adult you both trust. If that does not work you have to talk to someone. Your friend really needs help. Can you go to her parents? How about your parents for advice? If all else fails go to your school counselor and let them know how concerned you are. You may loose your friend, but at least you know that she will get help and that is the important thing.

mark · #6 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 02:56 AM

I would tell your parents first, and get them to contact your frinds parents.The school psychologist may be an option after telling your parents, if he or she is known to you to be a reliable and trusted person .Your friend could do herself a lot of damage cutting herself. Even if she doesnt cut a major blood vessel , or tendon , the cuts could become infected .