Advice for my friend who had her baby VERY early?

gin · #1 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 07:25 PM

My friend just had her baby this morning, she was only a little over 27 weeks along. His breathing is fine, but he weighs only 2 pounds 6 oz. Does anyone have any advice I can give her? She is just so worried. She also doesn’t have anything for him, like a crib and stuff because her mother wanted her to hold off in case she lost him. (She has had miscarriages before.) I don't care what the advice is, just as long as it isn't mean. If anyone has been through this before, I would love to hear your stories too. Thanks in advance.

♥ButterFlyAngel♥ · #2 (**permalink**) 12-11-2008, 10:10 PM

Just be there for her. My aunt had her baby very early too and he weighed 2 pounds even and he made it. He has no health problems. He was in the NICU for a while but he made it. Just have positive thoughts and tell her everything will be okay.

wunluv06 · #3 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 05:27 AM

sometimes giving advice is not the answer. All you really need to do is just be there for her. Let her know you are there to help out in any way you can and give her a"shoulder to cry on"All you can really tell her is that she needs to be strong for her son. And that what is happening is NOT her fault. Just don't tell her that you know how she feels. You may think you do but unless you have been through it you don't and some people really take offense to that certain commentWISHING YOUR FRIEND THE BEST OF LUCK.

ee_lime · #4 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 06:24 AM

I would try to make sure she gets pictures of her and her baby, like when she goes into the nicu and has her baby on her chest.

Premo Mom · #5 (**permalink**) 01-04-2009, 02:18 PM

Give honest support to your friend. Make sure she has what she needs, offer to help her gather the things her baby will need when he gets home. This will give her something positive to think about.

renee · #6 (**permalink**) 01-05-2009, 12:45 PM

I know exactly how she feels, my son was born at 27 weeks, weighing 2lb 2oz, he is now 3 and is a pain up the bum. Anyway the fact that he is breathing ok is brilliant, my son was the same, just be prepared for a few ups and downs, but if he's a little fighter like mine was, she'll no need to worry as much. Just be strong for him. It does take time though, so be patient. It'll all work out for the best, and before she knows it, he'll be where he should be, back home with his mummy.

Kristin · #7 (**permalink**) 05-23-2009, 01:30 AM

My best friend had a 2 pound 4 oz baby. She is now 13 months old and is doing great. The only problems are that her little head is a bit lopsided from being laid in the same position for too long, and she has a eye that looks inward. (on her back, with her head turned to the side) She had to wear a helmet thing for her head, and an patch for her eye for a while. It looked funny, but she is fine now. She is very full of energy and is one tough little girl now. I am sure your friends baby will be just fine, too.