I am really concerned and so is my friend ? advice please ?

Diva In New York · #1 (**permalink**) 12-11-2008, 02:53 AM

my best friend came over and asked me advice in something I am not familar with but thought I would ask on here. She likes this guy but on their 1st date he mentioned how his ex girlfriend enjoyed being choked while orgasming and then when at his house he reached down and picked up a knife under his furniture and said it was his magic knife and did some moves with it and put it back.. the rest of the night went fine but those two issues make her afraid to go on a 2nd date. Whats his deal ?

D M · #2 (**permalink**) 12-11-2008, 09:30 AM

Call it her seventh sense, but you always know when something is'off'with someone. This girl needs to trust her instincts that something is just not right, and keep her distance.

Annilisa · #3 (**permalink**) 12-13-2008, 08:58 PM

Oh my lord, I'd be concerned if i was you, I'd probably steer clear of him, sounds unhinged..And why would you need to near choke just to get off?!! Now that ain't normal and is dangerous, that's how Micheal Huntchinson died..Tell her there's plenty more fish in the sea and go find someone more'NORMAL'.You're a good friend..

dullrebecca · #4 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 12:48 PM

hhm. well, i don't know what his deal is but i would definately not see him again.

spez_2000 · #5 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 05:31 AM

He sounds a bit unhinged, you should tell your friend to stay well away, otherwise she could risk being physically hurt.

words_that_live_on · #6 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 06:30 AM

How can you be so unmoved . This guy shows all the classical sign of being a dangerous nut. Add street drugs and you got hell on wheels.

t0nst3rs · #7 (**permalink**) 12-19-2008, 04:31 PM

Um, yeah, he sounds like a freakshow and I would not be going out with him again. After the magic knife episode, I would have bounced.

.:kid:. · #8 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 08:46 AM

run away form him. well don't gettoo close and don't make him mad or they go crazy and do bad and dangerous stuff.

LDB449 · #9 (**permalink**) 12-31-2008, 12:10 PM

Tell her to stay away from the guy. Please, this is not a good sign.

Lisa P · #10 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 01:07 PM

Most people on early dates go all out to impress&be on their best behaviour. If this is anything to go by imagine what sort of behaviour he may display when they've been together a while. Sounds like a crazy nutter with'I have the power'issues, this is not normal, tell her to forget about him for her own safety.

Kathryn · #11 (**permalink**) 05-21-2009, 08:10 AM

she should get away from him he sounds a bit psycho

Mary_mountain_lover · #12 (**permalink**) 05-21-2009, 03:32 PM

Do NOT go on a second date...he sounds dangerous. Do you need to ask?But she needs to let him down gently, (so she shouldn't be mean or anything), so that he doesn't become upset or mad. Just say something that wouldn't sound mean or demeaning, like she is not ready for serious dating etc..

Kathryn R · #13 (**permalink**) 05-26-2009, 01:40 AM

She needs to go with her gut and not go back with another date with him. We have instincts and we really need to listen to them more than we do. Let her read some of the answers here if she has any doubts about staying away from him. It might save her life in the long run.