Healthy Relationship AdviceMany say that love is the most common cold. From being overly consumed with someone, to being blatantly mistreated we can be ill in love and not even notice a sign. We may not be doctors but we can prescribe you with healthy love advice to make sure your relationship is strong.
Im crazy for this kid. Literally head over heels. He's freaking amazing.He really, really likes me, BUT (there always has to be a"but"doesn't there? Sheesh.) he still has a thing for his ex-girlfriend. Fun.He said that he ended things too quick, on the wrong note. Sure. I get that. But he wants to get back together with her for a little while to"close the book"properly.I'm all for closure. Don't get me wrong, I'm down with closure 100%. But get back together with her? Thats a bit excessive to me. (By the way, the girl is a b- i-t-c-h beeoytch. At least thats the picture of her thats been painted. She always put him down, she doesnt support anything he does, she doesn't believe in him. And shes a raging fight picker.)To be perfectly honest. If this is what he needs in order to start a sucessful and healthy relationship with me, I'm all for it.But it really hurts. How do I deal with that?And he's so flipping wishy washy. He was in love with me last month, but this month he doesn't know anymore. Yesterday he told me that I'm perfect and that he can see himself marrying me. But then he told me all that business about his ex. I'm all like"wtf!?"right now. Can you tell?I know this belongs in S&D, but I thought I would acutally ask SMART people this time.P&S rooles.Homer. Take a left, take a right, now a left now another lef-BRICKWALL!!.It's on the table.He's 19, I'm 17. And yes, that is a self portrait.
This guy is immature and and doesnt know what he wants and you both sound very young time will tell who stays with who If this is your art work its very good
He is fucking you around.There is two sides to every story ,so all the things you hear about the other girl, im sure are the same for him. I would get rid of him , you can do better. He doesnt even know what he wants.
okay, first of all, the smartness comment hurts! i answer questions in S&D and plenty of other places, and i dont see myself as dumb.but seeing as some of these other answers havent done much for you, im still willing to help. (i started writing this after the first 2 were posted, so i appreciate the more recent answers, they have improved.) you are forgiven.now, he is right about giving closure, because ending a relationship without closure doesnt seem fair at all. however, getting back together with her obviously means he has strong feelings for her still, if he is willing to take that step.now, you say he really likes you but how can you tell for sure? you may want to analyze these points.A) Does he stare at you a lot?B) Does he smile a lot around you?C) Does he generally seem happy or nervous when you come his way?And Did he tell you he liked you?if you are positively sure he does, then i think he may be worth waiting for. if she treats him like dirt, you may want to gently let him know this. dont trash her, but just casually ask if he wants to see a movie or something, just to hang out. then say"what kind of movies do you like?"to let him know that you care about his interests and aare willing to make him happy. if you strongly believe he likes you and wants to be with you, dont lose hope! keep hanging out (not stalkery lol) and making good conversation. tell him that if he ever needs to talk, about problems hes having with her, youre there, and if he just wants to get closure, the relationship will probably end shortly with her. thats when you can make your bigger move.if it doesnt work out and he really seems to want to be with her, still stay in his life and make sure he is aware of what a great friend you can be. he seems a little naive, but maybe you can straighten him out and that will make him happy
well...if he says he wants to get back with her, just to break up...um, i would think that he has a screw loose somewhere other than on the zipper to his jeans...i would wonder if they were really broke up to begin with and he just wanted an excuse to try to kick ME to the curbmen don't get back with their ex to break up with them...they go back for another romp in the sacki'm all for closure, too, but, if he really wants to close this relationship, it would have been closed when he closed it before (on the wrong note), but, too quickly? you need to think what too quickly means here...that means he wants to be with her a LOT more...i wouldn't deal with it...i'd get over it and move onwhat a boost to his ego if the'raging fight picker'would come for you! maybe that is what he wants...you two to fist it out...winner gets his loser ass!?
Poor little thing Ana♥ You know what?? Do you know that saying ~ absence makes the heart grow fonder?? Do a disappearing act on him for like a week or more ~ if that's not practical then how about telling him that you need some time away from him to sort out how"you feel"about this situation♥Appears to me that you are focusing way to much on what he wants♥Then simply leave it at that .................. if he really wants to be with you he will seek you out♥If you love something, set it free babe ~ if he doesn't come back he was never yours to start with, if he does come back he always was yours♥ You just need to force the issue and remove yourself from the equation for a few days, weeks, whatever it takes, to compel him to make a decision and to get him to stop being such as ditherer♥sometimes we have to do the hardest things♥take care of you hun&good luck♥CHEERS♥
Advice, advice, advice. I needz it.?
id he tell you he liked you?if you are positively sure he does, then i think he may be worth waiting for. if she treats him like dirt, you may want to gently let him know this. dont trash her, but just casually ask if he wants to see a movie or something, just to hang out. then say"what kind of movies do you like?"to let him know that you care about his interests and aare willing to make him happy. if you strongly believe he likes you and wants to be with you, dont lose hope! keep hanging out (not stalkery lol) and making good conversation. tell him that if he ever needs to talk, about problems hes having with her, youre there, and if he just wants to get closure, the relationship will probably end shortly with her. thats when you can make your bigger move.if it doesnt work out and he really seems to want to be with her, still stay in his life and make sure he is aware of what a great friend you can be. he seems a little naive, but maybe you can straighten him out and that will make him happy 
