Healthy Relationship AdviceMany say that love is the most common cold. From being overly consumed with someone, to being blatantly mistreated we can be ill in love and not even notice a sign. We may not be doctors but we can prescribe you with healthy love advice to make sure your relationship is strong.
An old boyfriend has suggested we try getting back together after a few years apart (we were together for seven years). I am totally confused and don't know what to do. I care for him deeply and love him in my own way but there is no passion between us and I am not sexually attracted to him. However, he is loving, caring and supportive and looks after me better than anyone else. My question is, can a relationship be sustained on these merits alone if there is no passion? Does passion die after x amount of years together? I am confused between feeling that this would not be a healthy relationship yet I would be jealous if he meet someone else. There is a large age gap between us (12 years) if that makes any difference, given that, he is super keen to start a family and I know he would make a fantastic dad, but again, I am not sure this is a healthy environment to raise children. I would be grateful if anyone else has been in this situation or has any words of advice. Thank you!Thanks everyone - for clarification, I ended the relationship because we had grown apart the last year we were together and I was keen to explore the world and see other people and he was equally keen to settle down. I have not been in a serious relationship with anyone since him. There were also other issues that affected our relationship and that was that both of our families disapproved of the age gap (12 years) and I struggled to cope with that. If we were to get back together, that would still be an issue although I think I am better equipped to deal with that now.
Years really don't make any difference. If you like him in some ways more than others, try giving it a go! You never know, your feelings might change.Just make sure he knows how you're feeling. Perhaps just date him at first.
No, passion should not just fizzle out of a relationship... lots of times it does, but it should not. Passion is what makes a relationship so exciting, and without it...hmmmm... I know for myself, I would definitely miss that.......and I'm not certain I would marry anyone if I didn't feel passion or chemistry for that person. They are emotions a marriage should NOT be without. I don't know whether to say that the relationship would be"unhealthy"without it..... it certainly would be boring and unexciting.... if you deem that"unhealthy", then that's your answer.
soo maybe I am oversimplifying--but you no longer lust for him, you simply love him.And that's a problem?Lust always fades.Now, if'no longer attracted to him"means you are repulsed by him, then yes it is a problem. But if you simply don't have that'gotta have you right here, right now'lust, then I think you are fine. Find some ways to spice things up a little and enjoy.
You both have to sit down and work out goals you both want to aim at. To see if you are after the same things. If you are not moving forward in the same direction it is doomed.I don't think you want him but you don't want anyone else to have him.I think you either need to stop the freindship now and cut off all ties so you can both move on. Or give it another shot. And be commited no half hearteness. Don't lead him on.I think you know the answer.He offers you a lot but so can other men.Why did it end? Are those problems still there? Passion dies down over the years if you don't work at it.
Relationship advice - longevity and passion?
