How important is sex in a healthy relationship?

Pato · #1 (**permalink**) 12-19-2008, 07:39 AM

If you care about your other half but the sex just isn't there due to cultural or biological reasons. Should you consider breaking up?I guess I want to know, how important sex is in keeping a healthy marriage together (at least for people in their 30s.)My partner is beautiful and she loves me but she has a low sex drive and no interest in sex. Maybe she is up for it once every few months if that and it is dead fish kind of sex.I never push the issue on her at all but I also have my own needs and I feel I am missing something important in our relationship.I care deeply for her but I'm wondering if we should break up. Or am I just being selfish over one issue in a much bigger relationship?Helpful suggestions please.She has always been this way. She is Japanese and it is common among some Asians women to have a lower sex drive.We have talked about it and she says she wants to please me but just isn't into sex all that much.Sucks for me...

exotic4fems · #2 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 10:03 AM

Oh no its not important in a wealthy relationship

anhyeuem060288 · #3 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 04:50 AM

very very important to keep your partner happy and yourself happy as well

xyz · #4 (**permalink**) 12-29-2008, 02:50 AM

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youpick · #5 (**permalink**) 12-31-2008, 09:46 AM

I havent hit that problem yet, butt for some reason im always horny after lunch

vetpuddle · #6 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 10:50 PM

Talk to her about this. It's obviously important to you. Maybe their is a good reason on her behalf. Maybe you should be more romantic and try and sweep her off her feet again. Some marriages work like yours. Different strokes for different folks.

daymon n · #7 (**permalink**) 01-04-2009, 03:18 PM

I hear its good for ya

babycatcher · #8 (**permalink**) 01-07-2009, 03:22 AM

have you tried asking her if there is a problem? have you got children? relationships do change after childbirth, sex drives do change as you get older and if you love each other you can work through it. don't give up on her

Hedwig P · #9 (**permalink**) 01-22-2009, 08:48 PM

Sex is part of every healthy relationship. If your wife seems cold to you there may be several reasons. Maybe she is frigid. That would be a medical condition and needs the assistance of a doctor. Maybe you are needing more play and gadgets in bed in order to arouse her properly. A women needs more time and is aroused much longer than a man. In any way, I feel that you should seek the help of a either a marriage councillor or a doctor. A good gynocologist should be able to help you.

♥ GINA♥ LOVE♥ · #10 (**permalink**) 03-09-2009, 10:30 AM

I think it is extremely important. You're going to have to talk to her and find out what the deal is. What was her sexual drive at the beginning, did it change or has she always remained the same?If she changed, find out why? If you started dating her and she was always like this, find out if she can change. If she doesn't show interest or care to change I'm afraid it's time to move on or get hooked on porn&your hand, unless she's okay with you cheating on her?You guys really need to discuss this, maybe she's into things you don't know about and your sex is boring to her...you never know, it could be a number of reasons why, just ASK!