Should I give up on relationships due to lack of experience?

happyfeet133 · #1 (**permalink**) 12-21-2008, 04:15 AM

I am 21 yrs old, and have never been in a relationship. I am young, but I feel like I can not mentally connect with some people. Im sure it has to do with trust issues and bad instances in the past with friends. I feel like if I cant trust friends, what makes me think I can be in a romantic relationship and build trust. Also most guys I really like dont like me, and the guys that like me I dont like in a romantic way. Apart of me is getting desperate and hopeless. I would like to experience a healthy relationship, and experience vulnerability, love, friendship, and passion. I think for me to experience this I have to just give in, to the next guy that asks me out. Also I can get really shy, and im afraid this puts people off and they see me as akward, or cold.Am I being dramatic, or are there people out there than can relate, and give advice?

chaitan_rao · #2 (**permalink**) 12-21-2008, 11:39 PM

I'm a single 27 year old guy who has never been in a relationship, there are times I fel like giving up myself, but people always tell me to just wait.

missingora · #3 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 02:51 AM

To say you want to give up on relationships because you're inexperienced is like saying you won't go in the water until you learn to swim.However, you do sound a bit desperate and that is always a mistake! Guys are terrified of desperate women ...and rightly so.

boomboombaby · #4 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 09:51 PM

I can relate...... I am really shy around people as well... unfortunanently I've been told that I do seem a bit awkward and cold.... cause I tend to be a loner and pull away from people. Do not give up on a relationships though... you'll find someone have faith. Also don't worry about the lack of experience... some guys like it and if you don't like the next guy who asks you out don't go out with them just to get experience.