can anyone give me some advice about my relationship?

munchkin22 · #1 (**permalink**) 12-09-2008, 08:02 PM

i made it clear to my boyfriend that i don't want to go further physically with him. i'm 16 and he's 15 (yes, i know we're pretty young)i'm not the type of person who feels that the physical things are important to a healthy relationship, and after i made it clear that i didn't want to go further we fought a lot. he broke up with me for a day saying that it's because we just kept fighting. He said he needed a break, and now we're back together. he never pressures me and said whatever i'm comfortable with is fine with him. i admit i can be very bossy, but i'm working on that. i know that he wants to go further, but whenever i ask him about it he just gets angry with me. i know he's tired of the fighting, but is he just using me?thanks for your help guys. i do have strong morals and i agree they only want one thing. latest is that he's pissed off over the fact that i asked him if he dumped me for not oing further. he's being a babyguys and girls are welcome to answer =)

Shanizzle · #2 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 10:00 AM

The answer to your question is yes. On how you stated your issue, it seems all he wants is to do you and that really isn't healthy for a relationship, or YOU, in that matter if you get pregnant.

mJc · #3 (**permalink**) 12-10-2008, 02:44 PM

Kid, teenage boys are programmed to reproduce. They are driven to have sex, it's not easy for them to hold back from someone they care about so quit bugging him about it. That's probably why he gets mad - he's doing his best respecting you and you keep nagging him about whether he wants to or not. If you're old enough to be in a relationship (you're not) then you're old enough to communicate as an adult with the one you care about.

Ryan · #4 (**permalink**) 12-12-2008, 03:48 AM

how can he be using you? if he was using you, and he knew you didnt want to go further, why would he get back together the second time?

Taylor! · #5 (**permalink**) 12-12-2008, 10:15 PM

he's not using you persay but he is being a dick head about everything and if he says that he doesnt want to pressure you but then you say something about it and he goes all nuts then thats pressuring you and you just need to find someone else... he's gonna get you to do something you dont want to.. he sounds like an asss hole to me.. i wouldnt put up with his sh*t is i were you

sustasue · #6 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 03:33 PM

He sounds like he has issues and he's sexually frustrated. From what you say, it doesn't sound as if the two of you are going to make it. He's begrudging you not having sex with him and he'll most likely find a girl that will give in to him. That shouldn't make you want to have sex with him. You deserve a guy that will respect your decision to remain a virgin. Trust.';-()

Diamond S · #7 (**permalink**) 12-14-2008, 03:51 PM

I dont think hes using youmaybe he just wants to be lovable to you.

Ashleyelaine · #8 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 12:41 AM

I will be 100% honest with you, guys who will argue with you and all that nonsense after you make it clear that you aren't ready for certain physical things are making it completely clear what they want. Someone like that isn't worth your time. If he really cared about you he would respect your decision, which I give you kudos on BTW, keep your morals strong.

kezzey63 · #9 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 07:35 AM

@ that age they only have one thing on there mind sweetheart.i regret not saving my virginity so never compromise yourself for someone who probably cares but in reality is not going to be there in the end

Brunette18 · #10 (**permalink**) 12-15-2008, 10:02 AM

He's getting angry over something that the two of you should be able to talk about. If he broke up with you after finding out you dont want to go as far as he does physically, he's probably just keeping you around until either you change your mind or he finds someone who will go farther with him. Life's too short to deal with junk like this in your life, be true to you and move on.

friendlystranger65 · #11 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 07:59 PM

do you want some of this ice cream? Oh, boy, it's delicious. Would you like some, honey? It's so good. Just a little? You want a taste?I'M SO SORRY. YOU CAN'T HAVE ANY. You're too young. I'm saving it. It would be wrong for you to have any.Now how do you feel?Do you recall what your mother said when she said that you couldn't date until you were sixteen?And you said,"Aw Ma! I'll be responsible!.You're being responsible. That's good.But every time you bring up"going further"you remind him of what he thinks about when he's alone in the bathroom with the door closed.But combine that with the fact that you are bossy sometimes is putting a strain on his imagination.I'm not saying that you should change and break your vow of chastity or whatever you're calling it today. I'm saying please don't wash his face with your sacred pheromones.