Is it possible to have a healthy relationship without intimacy?

Marie · #1 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 05:13 PM

I have been married for three years. My husband and I have a toddler together. However, my husband is not interested in touching me, kissing or sex. I try to initiate sex and he appears uncomfortable and has excuses as to why it is not the right time to do it. When I comfront him about being gay he insists thtat he is not gay. When I ask him why he does not like sex, he insists that he does. He assures me that he is attracted to me. I care for him deeply, he is a good man and the father of my child but I do feel rejected and neglected. I hate to think he is gay. Is it possible to have a healthy marriage with limited to no sex and no kissing?

gloria b · #2 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 07:26 PM

All I can say is that I personally couldn't.

baseballdad69 · #3 (**permalink**) 12-29-2008, 10:11 PM

No, no, no, no

sweetone46530 · #4 (**permalink**) 01-05-2009, 07:56 AM

I'm afraid that this does not sound normal or healthy. I would suggest you confront him about his feelings if you have not already done so, but be prepared because you may not get the answer that you are hoping for. I would suggest counseling for you both immediately. You are not happy in this situation or you would not be posting this question. It will only make you more miserable as time goes on. We get married for a reason, one of which is intimacy. There is a reason that he is not wanting intimacy and you need to find out what that is. Good luck.

Pattyboy · #5 (**permalink**) 03-04-2009, 10:12 PM

I have the same problem with my wife she tells me she doesn't feel comfortable...this after the second child....So i understand what you are going through....Is it possible to have a healthy marriage with limited to no sex and no kissing? ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE!!! IMO its not practical it does put stress on the marriage and you really test your marriage and commitment to one another...Have you thought about getting some professional help? Best of luck PS i been married 5 years

b n real · #6 (**permalink**) 03-13-2009, 08:04 PM

Sweet Pea I don't think he is gay, but i do think he may have a lot on his mind. He may be worried about something and don't want to involve you in it, so that you wont worry. Men are very peculiar human beings. I would go to the hubbie and ask if you could so something for him that can take the load off. This open a window of communication for him to tell you what is bothering him. Be sincere about what you are asking and make sure you are quick to listen and slow to speak. God Bless!