How should I approach asking my sig. other to read a relationship self-help book?
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How should I approach asking my sig. other to read a relationship self-help book?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and clearly don't know what the hell we are doing in our relationship, both of us are from broken homes, neither of us seeing a direct example of a healthy relationship, and so whenever we ave issues or problems that arise, neither of us can communicate with each other, well, not without the silent treatment or yelling, and so of course nothing ever gets solved. We love each other very much but could use some help before we end up killing each other (lol there's no physical abuse, its just a joke)Anyway, someone borrowed me a copy of"women are from mars, men are from venus"and i flipped through it and could see how it could help us greatly, IF we both activly persue it. I want to read this book with him, so we can both identify problems and learn how to relate to one another better, but i don't know how to ask him, i'm afriad he'll think i am critisising him or whatever, so can anyone please help me figure out a way to ask him,thxI know some might say if the relationship is that bad we should split up, and i agree if things stay the way they are, but i can't help feeling like it deserves a fair shot with this book to make things better, and if it doesn't work then maybe the relationship should end, but i really want to try with this or any other suggestions you may have before"throwing in the towel"so to speakLMAO, i just realized i got that backwards, men are from mars, women are from venus lol
You could try telling him that its you, not him, but that you want to get his opinion on things before you make any changes, and would like him to read it with you. With any luck he'll agree and get some ideas from it himselfIt IS a little white lie and honest MAY be the best policy in most cases, but if things are already rough and you're taking the initiative in this, it would be the only way not to have it come off as an attack.
I actually have that book and it is great.My husband is not a reader and I am, there are lots of books I read that I wish he would so to get him interested in the book, I keep it on my bedside. Every night before we go to bed, I read excerpts from the book out loud and say something like in your case"Hey it says here, men are naturally fix it people, do you believe that?"or"You know how when I come home, I just want to talk, says here that women are made that way. Do you think it's true?"Make sure when you talk to him you make him feel like you value his opinion and that you show how important it is to you. If he does not read the book, at least he gets bits and pieces of it or who knows, he'll get interrested and begin reading it with you.GL
How should I approach asking my sig. other to read a relationship self-help book?
