Healthy Relationship AdviceMany say that love is the most common cold. From being overly consumed with someone, to being blatantly mistreated we can be ill in love and not even notice a sign. We may not be doctors but we can prescribe you with healthy love advice to make sure your relationship is strong.
Last night, my girlfriend of 2 and a half years left me. It was very hard for both of us and wasnt on bad terms. Her main concern is that I am not religous, while she is christian. Although she knew from the beginning this was the case and had no problem being with me and playing a huge part in my family and son's life (From previous relationship).She says she needs to do some soul searching and that we need to get healthy individually. She told me that she would like to be with me after some time apart...but WONT end up with an"un-godly man". I feel that she is somehwat wrong in giving me that ultimatum since she is asking me to change who I am. I am more than willing to admit and apologize for my mistakes, but how could she start something and get that involved with me and my son just to give up nearly 3 years down the line.I plan to better myself and prove that I love her by any means, but I cant guarnantee that ill be what she expects in the end.What should I do?Also, I dont criticize her beliefs in any way and told her that I would support her views and beliefs and have no problem passing them on to our children someday.She would never talk about her thoughts or feelings as far as religion being a barrier for us, until yesterday. I guess she had gone to church on Friday with her sister and now she's like a completely different person. Could it be a phase that she might ease up on a little. If she does really love me, I think she will need to be open to compromising, and I dont know if she will.
I honestly don't know what more you can do other than what you already said you plan to do. I do agree that if she has known who you are this whole time that it is not fair to hold that against you now. I'm sorry I can't be of more help than that. Best of luck to you and your son.
Is there a reason that you are not religious? Previous happenings that caused it?She is not right for you - in my opinion. If she truly loves and cares about you, it would not be a problem if you are not a religious person. Find someone who cares about you - for who you are and your son, also.
dont change dude. you have the same belife as i do. she is confused. a little. well you can show her how you love her by telling her how you feel. your belifes are yours. but just dont change yourself.
it will just come up again later, I'd let it go.She was hoping to change you.That's only ok if it's real and happened without threat of breakup, but it didn't.
I think that her religion is the most important thing in her life, and there's probably nothing you can do to change that (and you shouldn't try). It gets very difficult for a relationship where each of the couple is a different religion. She shouldn't try to force anything on to you, because then it wouldn't be true faith. However, if her convictions are to be with another believer, then she will probably end up doing that.
So if you are willing to do all this for her then why did she leave? What kind of relationship did you guys have? Did she live with you? I dont fully undertsand the problem she has with you, if any. It sounds like she is searching for something she isnt going to find, and she might ruin her chance being with you by doing this.
Even though it has been a couple of years. It is possible that her faith has grown. By her backing away is really a good thing because neither of you will be happy if you are unequally yoked.She is not forcing her beliefs on you. She is just giving you time to decide if you really want to walk that Christian walk with her.If not she is willing to move on with no hard feelings. A true Christian knows you have to seek God for yourself. Now it is all up to you.....
Women always want to change their men. Too bad, we won't change. She is better off finding a guy that suits her as-is. You too. Let this girl keep looking for Mr. Right. You're not it and you will never be happy pretending to be someone you are not.
Sounds like it was a good thing this happened before you took this to the next level. I don't understand people who think that they can miraculously change someone. If you are happy with yourself and you would let her do her own thing - I don't get her way of thinking. I think this may be a good thing that she is gone. What would be next if she didn't like the color blue would she forbid you from the color blue. You seem like a really nice guy - try to find someone who respects you the way you are! She came into this relationship with her eyes wide open.
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