We've been together 3 1/2 years, nearly all of it has been long distance. We are both very committed to each other and have what I consider to be a healthy, respectful, wonderful relationship. We are both in the process of finishing degrees so I assume that marriage talks won't happen until we are done but I feel like I really need an extra level of commitment, especially considering the long distance that we are dealing with. When and how do I have"the talk"without making him feel pressured or sounding like I am giving an ultimatum.
At what point is the"where is this relationship going"question appropriate? Needed?
It's nice to see someone who has a good, healthy relationship that has lasted for such a length of time. to answer the question - I see what you mean with wanting another level of commitment without being like,"are we getting married?!"haha. :P If I were you, I'd wait for a moment when both of you are laughing or in a good mood, doing something fun or having a nice time with eachother - then, just bring up marriage in a subtle way. Maybe talk about how happy you are to have him, how nice he makes your life, or how glad you are to be with him...after his response, maybe then just be straight foward and honest and ask him if he has any ideas of your future together. It's best to be to the point without being forceful. Ask what you want to say but try to make it light. I hope I helped you! 
