whats a french kiss and what does it feel like? Why is he doing this to me?

softball~ chic · #1 (**permalink**) 01-17-2010, 11:02 AM

I like a 17 year old and i am 14. we known each other for 7 months. we met at church. we always flirt. i told him i liked him and he told me he liked me and he said we cant date because age difference but we can be friends with benefits.. my mom doesn't like this guy at all. he text ed me the one day and told me the shirt i wore at church he could see my boobs. I'm like that's nice why were you looking. and hes like I'm aloud to look and I'm not gonna lie i did like the view.....
i was freak in shocked he just said that to me

Lil. we were planning to hang out that weekend and he said if we hang out the most i am gonna do with you is make out but after that its all up to you. and im like okay. and he said do you even know what is beyond makeout and im like yes and hes like what is it. im like sex? and hes like no you get into each others pants. im like same thing. hes like no sex is when...... and getting in the pants is when you just do a handjob and get fingered. i told him i wasnt ready for that. and he said okay good. we r planning to kiss tomorrow at church. any tips? its my first kiss and oviously he kissed before since he is 17... is it wrong to kiss in church? whats a french kiss and what does it feel like? is it magical? why is he doing this to me???
Thank you for all your help. please no rude comments. thanks

Oscar S · #2 (**permalink**) 01-19-2010, 11:02 AM

yes it's wrong to make out in church. it's just not something you do there.

Krazy Hal · #3 (**permalink**) 01-21-2010, 11:02 AM

stay away from this kid before you end up pregnant

puppet7112 · #4 (**permalink**) 01-25-2010, 11:02 AM

Wow...your such a kid.

curiosity killed the cat · #5 (**permalink**) 01-27-2010, 11:02 AM

go fuck yourself

friends with benefits doesn't sound at all bad to you?

are you stupid? get away from him before you get pregnant

and in church? seriously

why is Ur name Randi?

with an i?

I Stalk Kristina · #6 (**permalink**) 02-01-2010, 11:02 AM

I'm not trying to be mean, but this is the truth: You really really really really need to avoid this guy. "Friends with benefits" means you're going to do things that are sexual (make-out a lot, do things close to sex, maybe eventually have sex) but you're not going to be attached to each other at all. "Friends with benefits" means you are NOT supposed to like each other, NOT supposed to love each other, NOT supposed to have a crush on each other, etc. The only reason you will meet is to do something sexual. I don't think this is what you want at all. You should wait until you find a guy that actually likes you before you spend your "first time." This guy is taking advantage of you because he's 17 and wants sex, and lots of it. The first step towards finding the a good guy is that he would actually care about you enough to date you, regardless of the age difference.

MichelleMichelle · #7 (**permalink**) 02-03-2010, 11:02 AM

Wow. Okay honestly, friends with benefits is not a good thing. You should like a guy who likes you back for who you are not what you look like on the outside. Don't let him pressure you into doing sexual things. Just giving some advice.

la428282 · #8 (**permalink**) 02-08-2010, 11:02 AM

-Sigh-

You need to stay away from this kid. Of course, you won't listen (and honestly I probably wouldn't either I if was a 14 year old girl). He's bad news and only appears to be nice until he gets what he wants and you'll be old news. I've met people like him, I have a friend (my cousin) that is just like this guy. You're only asking for trouble here... and heartache.

spicymchaggis770 · #9 (**permalink**) 02-11-2010, 11:02 AM

You need to stay away from this guy! It sounds to me like hes just trying to use you and I would hate for that to be what you base all your other experiences on.

Liz G · #10 (**permalink**) 02-12-2010, 11:02 AM

A French kiss is kissing where you use your tongue and sometimes stick it in the other person's mouth. It kinda feels like when you fold your tongue over in your mouth and rub it back and forth.

But I don't think church is the best place for kissing...or feeling weird about someone checking out your chest. Honey, I hate to tell you this, but he's not a good guy. He'd have sex with you (friends with "benefits"), but won't date you? That's not someone who you need to waste your time with. Kiss him if you want to, but be careful. You deserve better.

Carly 2 · #11 (**permalink**) 02-14-2010, 11:02 AM

He's doing this to you because you are way younger than him and therefore more vulnerable to use for his own benefits (kissing you and more.), you're an easy target. Don't waste your first kiss on him. Remember, mother knows best, and I agree with your mommy. I don't like him either and I haven't even met him! Give it a year without doing anything with him, mature more, then look back. TRUST me, take it from me, I'm 15, he just want in your pants. And it's easy to fall into a guy like this trap. Don't be friends with benefits because he'll be the only one benefiting from it. You're too young for him, and he'll just end up hurting you because most likely you'll end up wanting a relationship and he'll be done with you, satisfied, and on to the next. This is why your mother doesn't like him, she sees right through him as I do.

Please don't do anything with him, you'll regret it. Wait until you get a boyfriend who cares about you and is closer to your age, please.EEOnce you're older everything I'm saying will make sense, just trust me on this one.

Much love,

-Livy(:

meg420c · #12 (**permalink**) 02-15-2010, 11:02 AM

sounds like a tool. you deserve WAY better than that. get rid of him and find a real man that will treat you right

Life is Crazy, so am I · #13 (**permalink**) 02-19-2010, 11:02 AM

He's using words to get what he wants from you. Since the age difference makes a relationship inappropriate, you should know that having a -sexual- relationship is an extreme push of boundaries.