Do you think its ok that I french kiss my best friend? is it normal?

shamerz · #1 (**permalink**) 07-23-2010, 11:34 AM

Hello guys! My best friend and I hang out everyday. We call each other nicknames, when we are together we caress, cuddle, hug, hold hands, play with our hairs, say "? love you" to each other, look into each other eyes for minutes and we just started french kissing. I stayed in her house for a night and we didn't sleep CZ we kept caressing and looking at each other. The next day we started french kissing CZ' I told her I wanted to do so and we just did. Since then, we french kiss only when I start it. She laughed twice when we did. She said it was weird CZ I wasn't a guy but she has never stopped it. She says she does it for fun. She recently broke up with her boyfriend and she is been very sad and crying for days but when she is with me she does all those things. She keeps saying she is straight but she is like obsessed with me. I wonder, is she gay or not? does she like me or is she in love with me? I do and I want to know if she does too. Do you think this behavior is natural on best friends or can you tell there's much more than a friendship? Do you think she is kissing me just for fun when we do all the things we do? Thanks in advance! =)

justanotherchelseafan · #2 (**permalink**) 07-24-2010, 11:34 AM

I think she could be gay. I think the both of you could possibly be falling for each other... but maybe she's just not ready to admit it to herself yet, hence her defensive "she's straight" comment. just give her some time maybe

jeri b · #3 (**permalink**) 07-25-2010, 11:34 AM

I think that she just might be unsure. But it's possible for her to just be experimenting. All in all it's what SHE is attracted to, physically and or emotionally. Obviously physically she is attracted to you. And obviously, she does enjoy kissing you. But maybe emotionally, she's attached to her ex boyfriend because that's what she sees as "right." It wouldn't be fun for her if she didn't like it, remember that.

oliviahottiepants · #4 (**permalink**) 07-29-2010, 11:34 AM

I think you guys are falling in love and she could be gay but since she has a boyfriend probably bisexual and she does not know it yet. I think she likes you though. And you to her.

morris · #5 (**permalink**) 08-02-2010, 11:34 AM

You shouldn't worry about, "Is she", "Am I", or "Are we?" Just forget about the labels and enjoy what you are sharing. If it's meant to be, it will be. If it's not, then it won't be. Just respect her boundaries and take what she says at face value. Don't assume something other than what she is telling you. Trust the process and trust her process. Keep being there for her, keep being her friend, and if it really bothers you too much, talk to her about it. If she's gone as far as you've said and she is your best friend, then having that conversation will not hurt anything - it can only help.

Is it normal? There's no such thing. Every relationship has its own dynamic. It's probably safe to say that "most" friendships don't involve regular french kissing, but then your friendship is yours alone and maybe that's the way it will continue. With regard to normality, I say again, just forget about the labels and enjoy what you are sharing.