How do i get this girl to kiss me when i'm a girl too?

Animal Luvr 4 Life · #1 (**permalink**) 08-12-2008, 02:55 PM

Ok, so I'm pretty sure I'm bi. I'm only 14(please don't say I'm too young, i just want some good answers). I've been thinking this for a little while now and i had to tell somebody, so i told my best friend. i also found myself very attracted to another girl, but i didn't tell this to my best friend because i didn't want to weird her out or anything.

so, my friend told me to tell the other girl i was bi. i didn't know why, i thought it was kinda weird she wanted me to tell her, i hadn't even told my friend that i was attracted to that girl. Now before i go on I think i should tell you that this girl i like gets kinda crazy if she drinks. She apparently tries to kiss every girl around when she gets drunk.(please don't say anything bad about this).And so i told the girl about me being bi and she told me she used to think she was bi also, but now she thinks she's strait. So now i knew why my friend wanted me to tell her about it, and it turns out the girl i like had already told my friend this.

And now i want really badly to either get a kiss with this girl or for her to like me the way i like her. I know it would extremely easy to kiss her when she's drunk, but i don't want that. Do i really have a chance at all? She claims she's sure she's strait, but i like her Soho much :/

any suggestions?
she and share about everything with each other, i know things about her that she hasn't told anybody else and Vi's verse. She told me that she would probably kiss a girl if she had the chance if she knew no one would ever find out, but she could never see herself being with a girl. :/

justagrandma · #2 (**permalink**) 08-15-2008, 02:55 PM

GET her drunk :P Or spike her drink :P

back to basics · #3 (**permalink**) 08-18-2008, 02:55 PM

Chill with her, just the two of you.
And just kiss her when it feels right.

xoxbabiiox · #4 (**permalink**) 08-22-2008, 02:55 PM

stop making up stories and you should know the answer yourself,

Aly B · #5 (**permalink**) 08-24-2008, 02:55 PM

There's really nothing wrong with making your move while the both of you are a little intoxicated. Some of the best relationships I've ever had started with being drunk at a party together :-) Also, if she's a little tipsy, she might be more likely to be truthful about whether or not she'd ever consider being with a girl. At 14, she might still be a bit too worried about social constraints, and whether her peers would judge her for being into girls. This would likely lead to her fibbing when she's sober about her sexuality. I was terrified of talking about my sexuality at 14, and a few shots would've helped me feel less afraid to bring it up.

I would say really ease into making any physical moves on her unless she's flirting with you to begin with, or she responds positively to your subtle flirtations. You might really insult her if you just attack her with a kiss. You also might want to do it somewhere private so she won't feel like she's making a spectacle of herself.

So I'd say, let alcohol be your social lubricant and truth serum, and get the real truth out of her :-)

ohey · #6 (**permalink**) 08-25-2008, 02:55 PM

Yeah, it's kind of honky to kiss someone you really like when they're drunk, I don't blame you for hoping for something more romantic. But it sounds like maybe she's not ready to date other girls again, and might never be ready again.

Some people, too, act out when they're drunk, and would never dream of behaving that way when they're sober. The best kind of lover to have is someone who doesn't need to be drunk to show you they like you. Have you ever seen the TV show "South of Nowhere"? Her behavior reminds me of one of the lead characters - someone who was subconsciously ashamed of her reputation and who went back and forth over whether she wanted to be bisexual or assumed to be straight like most people.
Because you are 14, I'm going to guess that she *may* still have feelings about other girls, but that she may be afraid of what it would mean if she acknowledges it and acts on her feelings.

You're lucky that you're more sure about who you are at this point, but other people have a hard time coming to terms, including bisexuals. I had a friend who liked girls, but also liked guys, and he couldn't even tell his closest friends for almost four years - and he was much older than you girls are.

Since she's figuring things out, you can hold out hope, but in the meantime, why not also see if there are any girls at your school or in other places you hang out who are more sure that they like girls? Also find places for bisexual girls to hang out. Like "AfterEllen.com" which is a community of bisexual and lesbian women, including some who are teenagers.