My mums boyfriend is an evil person and she lets him run me down, i love her but cant

#1 (**permalink**) 07-09-2010, 09:04 PM

He is a control freak, stops her from seeing me, hates her spending time with me. He only sees her twice a week and has taken her car because she has epilepsy and can no longer drive. He causes her to have fits by stressing her out and arguing about me, he also has an unhealthy interest in my younger brother, will do anything for him. My mum says he is jealous of me but why does she let him do this? I dint know why she is with him. He has ruined our Xmas because i cant even go round to see her because he will be there and she will let him slag me off and stop her from talking to me. Its just me and my boyfriend this year and I'm so depressed because i just want to be with my family, and i dint understand why she has chosen him over her own daughter,i would do anything for her. He just treats her like shit using her and walking all over her. I really dint know what to do i have told her everything i feel. She shows no interest.

#2 (**permalink**) 07-10-2010, 09:04 PM

Stay away. Let her miss you and then when she questions it tell her you didn't think she wanted to see you since she chose that s.o.b. over you.

#3 (**permalink**) 07-15-2010, 09:04 PM

Screw him!! That's your mom!! You've been in the picture a whole hell of a lot longer than he has!! If he's not right for your mother...don't you just let it happen. If your mother's boyfriend really loved her, he would treat you like gold. Don't let him win that easily!! Chin up girl!! Your mom must need you really bad right now!! Don't let some moron get in the way!!

#4 (**permalink**) 07-20-2010, 09:04 PM

You need to just step back and let her live her life you are young and you have a lot ahead of you. She will come around in time and when she does do not talk bad about her the man in her life this will just push her away let her know that she can trust you and that you will always be there for her.

#5 (**permalink**) 07-23-2010, 09:04 PM

Sometimes people have a low self image of themselves, and if anybody shows any interest in them, no matter if the interest is unhealthy; it's somebody. She may have been lonely, and he came into her life and now she is afraid to be alone. As for his unhealthy interest in your brother, depending on how young your brother is; I would try to have someone go check on him. Get him away from the boyfriend, and talk to him see what's going on. Sometimes you have to let someone find out the truth on their own. Unfortunately.

#6 (**permalink**) 07-27-2010, 09:04 PM

and you are staying with him because???????

#7 (**permalink**) 07-28-2010, 09:04 PM

WNW.ihatemyinlaws.com, the people on there are very supportive, and they know from experience and you can read about how they have gone through problems with their in laws and how they've learned from things, I think it will let you have a look at what you could do for your situation.