my ex gf says she still loves me, i want her back! please give me some advice!?

#1 (**permalink**) 07-04-2010, 09:07 PM

i love my ex and i want her back... i taxed her today and asked her does she have feelings for me... she didn't want to say at first,but then she said, "i do still love you but i felt smothered in our relationship, and i dint want that again, i want to be with you i do but i feel like it would be the same again after a while", i have changed i really have, she said she doesn't think i could change only after 2 months... how do i win her back? please i really need advice, i love her and I'm willing to do whatever it takes!

#2 (**permalink**) 07-07-2010, 09:07 PM

Mg
awWNWo for it....i reckon you need to not be as you were before if u were smothering her....then stop....but i insist you take her out wine and dine her and make her feel great and tell her u love her...
sounds good to me

#3 (**permalink**) 07-10-2010, 09:07 PM

for now just take time be friends with her for a bit to prove that you have changed then after awhile (don't ask me specifically how long it changes with people) you could try dating her again if she wants to but don't rush into it just yet

#4 (**permalink**) 07-13-2010, 09:07 PM

The truth is, if she REALLY loves you she would be OK with the way you are anyway. Why would you NEED to change if she loves you. This sounds like an excuse to me.

#5 (**permalink**) 07-15-2010, 09:07 PM

Instead of jumping into a relationship with her again just see if she would like to go and do things as a close friend and see what happens. If it is meant to be it will happen. Just give the two of you time.

#6 (**permalink**) 07-18-2010, 09:07 PM

go for it she said that she loves you........you should be more sweeter and caring.......;-)

#7 (**permalink**) 07-20-2010, 09:07 PM

For the time being, you should respect her wishes. Did she she say why she felt smothered? Are you jealous or possessive? You did not why she feels this way. If so, this is part of your personality, and it will be difficult to change. She is right in thinking that after a little time it would be the same problem again. The words "I have changed" often don't mean much, because in some areas, people don't/can't change.
If you feel that you have really changed, then start slowly; you will have to show her you have changed but it will take time. Maybe just conversations or a meal together. However, if she has made up her mind to move on, there is nothing that you can do.
Unfortunately, loving each other is not enough to maintain a good relationship.