Love:::I think its very complicated......I need some good advice!!!?

Lance · #1 (**permalink**) 12-06-2008, 12:01 PM

Well,there is a girl in my life..She is supposed to be my friend...But I love her...I have already told her that I love her...The problem is, she is already committed...She has had all(I mean sexual) relationships with her bf...Yesterday ,she tells me..I dint' know what has happened to me..I always feel like talking to u..and am not interested in talking to my bf....I told her it is u who has to decide.......She said she does not have any options....Maybe because of all the relationships with her bf...At the back of my mind I also feel that how can I love a girl like her....I really love her....But in the end if she leaves me I will be left nowhere....Please help, what should I do???

semplyme · #2 (**permalink**) 12-11-2008, 12:01 PM

might be a wiser idea to move on since she is in a relationship. Don't waste your time waiting and miss the opportunity to be with another great girl.

crj624 · #3 (**permalink**) 12-16-2008, 12:01 PM

here's the thing... one girl is not the end of the world... if she has has done sexual things, that should not hold you back, but she has a boyfriend, and mowing someone Else's lawn is not a smart thing... i say try to be the best friend possible, and if things happen, they happen, if not... then its not meant to be

laheira2 · #4 (**permalink**) 12-20-2008, 12:01 PM

Give yourself a break...Talk less to her for a while...give yourself time to think and give her some time too.If she loves u..she'll miss u and find a way to come to u...physical relationship is nothing when hearts are concerned.
If she doesn't love u but still wants to keep u..she'll find excuses.
U have to be wise and think...U have to move on...
good luck

Latoya W · #5 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 12:01 PM

your in a tough spot the same thing happened to me this girl i like for a while was wit my close friend and SE calls me one day and says she likes me and i told i do too so i asked what is she going to do and she said what i want her to do and i told her to leave the guy and come wit me but she did not and i was angry and confused why would she tell me she likes me out of the blue i did not want to ruin her relationship so i never told her but anyway i was glad me and her never got together because in the end i found this other girls and i was happy wit her i think you should move on and find another girl because she does not feel the same way about you sorry

Bunny83 · #6 (**permalink**) 12-23-2008, 12:01 PM

Depends on you. How much do you really love her? If you believe she is the "one" for you (at least for now), then stay single just for her. She'll notice and she'll get touched that you'd do that for her. The next part would depend on her relationship with her boyfriend. I might be reading the situation wrong, but I think that they're beginning to drift apart. If that's so, then give it a couple of months at most and she'll be single too. At that time, you know what to do already. But if I'm wrong and she just thinks of you as a friend, then best to do is just to move on.

Good luck!

P.S - don't be too impatient. The best things in life are well worth waiting for.