Long story...can't define if it's really love...or just infatuation...need some pieces of advice...?

Paul Kemp · #1 (**permalink**) 12-04-2008, 02:03 PM

It all started wen he became my prom partner..We'l,he's a total hunk and every girl's dream.Evry girl's got a crush on him and I'm 1 of them.But,he likes a girl who already has a boyfriend..I asked God for signs like,if he cud fall in luv with me,,he would text me and he did.Then,God did it!!Evrything fell into place.,He fell in love with me.He became my boyfriend.Now, we're in a relationship..a long distance relationship.But I don't understand what I'm feeling now!!I feel like I just got what I wanted and that's it. I don't think I Miss him.But wen the girl that he wanted gave him mesages that says she likes him,I felt my heart break up in pieces.But,sometimes, I would feel that,yeah,I love him...but no more inlove with him,,!But i think of him everyday..just that,,it's negative!! Like is he with another girl or something?!?!You guys get what I mean..??Now,I'm not sure if Im really inlove or maybe this is just infatuation...

Bryan C · #2 (**permalink**) 12-06-2008, 02:03 PM

True love no get busy!

gal2no2003 · #3 (**permalink**) 12-09-2008, 02:03 PM

well i think that maybe u should just go with Wat Ur heart says.i know Ur probably like o0o0 i dint know how to do that but trust me

violett · #4 (**permalink**) 12-12-2008, 02:03 PM

Could be infatuation...... the game of ya i have him too or who can get him 1st...... You know, Love isn't just based on looks. ...... Believe me..... Yeah , he's a hunk and every girl wants him. But is he's giving with you. Attentive. Excited to see you because he enjoys your company. He enjoys talking, laughing and just being himself around you... And are you the same back..You connect and share to where your like "Man, I've never felt like this for any one else......." Is there a real attraction and satisfaction between the both of you... feelings need to be true and mutual...Because if it is then its love.... You seek each other out.... You've come to know each other really really know each other. And not just sexually...I mean it could be....that could work but love is a deeper feeling..........

I bid you good fortune on looking for Mr. Right! Keep your eyes open!!! Just make sure your the "perfect gal" that will eventually attract the "perfect man" !!! Keep living and loving!!!

justonlyellen · #5 (**permalink**) 12-13-2008, 02:03 PM

u r like a child who weeps for a toy and when gets stops caring it. go away from him for some time and then feel if u really miss him. no one knows better then u.

Jaime D · #6 (**permalink**) 12-18-2008, 02:03 PM

It sounds like just an infatuation at this point. Sort of like, you had the thrill of the chase and you won him, but that was it. You're in love with the "idea of loving him" but not really in love with him. That's why you got so jealous when the girl he had a crush on him started sending him messages. It gave you a feeling that he could be taken away from you. Made you feel like "she" could take him away from you. Are you a competitive person?

TUFFY · #7 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 02:03 PM

You're going to have to blunder through it like everyone else and hope for the best.

internetbuubuu · #8 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 02:03 PM

depends on how much you know about him. if u don't know a lot about him and just that he's hot then its definitely infatuation. love is deeper than that. beefier you can love someone you have to know them inside-out.

Joe J · #9 (**permalink**) 12-30-2008, 02:03 PM

Can it be both? Can you possibly be in love and be infatuated at the same time? I think these may be normal feelings for your age. As we get older, these feelings get more under control and we can handle them better. In the meantime, it doesn't hurt to talk to someone about these feelings. Someone you can trust. How about mom? Is she available? I'm sure that she can share these feelings with you.