how to get my ex back? I love him so much and I know he loves me to but why he keeps changing his mind? help?

eskie lover · #1 (**permalink**) 07-30-2010, 03:22 PM

He is keep saying that he is not ready for marriage, its hurting me.
we are together for so long but we are on long distance when I visit him he go crazy about me. Last December every thing was OK and 2 weeks ago he told me he is just not ready yet. Its is hurting me bad.
Thank you very much guys. So should i call him back because i did not talk to him for 13 days now and because i was upset and wanted him to realize what he's doing. He try to talk to me I did not answered my phone. But I cant take it any more.

ullswater1978 · #2 (**permalink**) 08-01-2010, 03:22 PM

give him space.

_zoey1617_ · #3 (**permalink**) 08-02-2010, 03:22 PM

Take it easy girl!!!! I mean if he isn't ready then he isn't ready. Take it slow with him, he sounds sensitive.

houseoflove214 · #4 (**permalink**) 08-05-2010, 03:22 PM

If he says he's not ready for marriage, he's being honest with you. You cannot and should not change his mind. Either you have to drop the marriage talk, or drop him from your mind.

ontheroadagainwithoutyou · #5 (**permalink**) 08-09-2010, 03:22 PM

So, you dint want him back. He is not ready and you are, that is incompatible. If you keep pushing it, he will just keep push away. Just give yourselves space, step back from the situation, so that you can constructively assess the situation and what you really need.

Girl, I been there, and I spent a lot of time and energy trying to get him to put the same amount of energy I was willing to put in or did put in. You will become drained, He also need the time away to see how much he values you, some people cannot appreciate people when they are right there, they need them to be gone.

All the best

BrokenHeart · #6 (**permalink**) 08-10-2010, 03:22 PM

does pushing someone in to marriage seem like a good idea to you? face it you don't have any choice, he needs space and doesn't want marriage so back off. why is he an ex in the first place. if you keep pushing he's gonna bail completely. let it be what it is and enjoy it, if you can't do that get out of it all together and find someone who does want to be married.

Sadie · #7 (**permalink**) 08-11-2010, 03:22 PM

tell him you're not ready too. And you don't care about the next day and all you want is him at this point at this very moment.

Cristina O · #8 (**permalink**) 08-14-2010, 03:22 PM

Well if you both love each other then get back together and wait and see marriage is special and don't rush into things when you are both ready then you will know it, like you guys will stay together as long as it takes and then it will be special like if you have been dating for a year or two then you are ready to get married then go for it but if you want to get your ex back just back off on the whole marriage thing guys are funny they sometimes are really afraid of commitment and they get scarred away and then you have nothing so take it easy get back together with him and work things out get dating a bit longer and then maybe take a trip with him see how you guys are away from home and stuff that's what me and my boyfriend did and we have been dating for 2 years and he proposed to me on our 2 year anniversary

but we worked allot of things out and we where apart for 2 months and then got back together it was good.
so good luck and i hope things work out for you.

Lala - The BC Queen (_i_) · #9 (**permalink**) 08-18-2010, 03:22 PM

I think you need to give him time. getting married is a big step.
I understand that you love him but I'm afraid that you may
lose him if you continue to rush him. give him space.

Evil_Vampire · #10 (**permalink**) 08-23-2010, 03:22 PM

I agree, give him space.

Bec :) · #11 (**permalink**) 08-24-2010, 03:22 PM

Well boys r like that.they have 2 know whos the right person it would hurt even more if u were married wit him and he cheated on u