ho shld i choose,the man i love but never help me work it out/d one,idont love but wants to have fture w/me

mr_i_know_everything · #1 (**permalink**) 05-10-2010, 04:02 PM

i love the father of my kids but he's too lazy. all plans, no result.I'm the one working 4 the family. i gave him capital 4 business. i dint know if his working with it. i met a man. I'm not falling 4 him cause he's too busy. being together is my weakness. i easily fall. i want a security 4 my kids. but the thought that ill destroy my family if i go with another man confuse me. please help me. i just want the best 4 my kids. i can disregard my happiness.

Fallen_Engel · #2 (**permalink**) 05-15-2010, 04:02 PM

all persons are not same...i am sure you will find the right man for you soon...you seems a rich lady so find a poor guy..give him capital...i guess he will love you and respect you so much.

saminozuk · #3 (**permalink**) 05-17-2010, 04:02 PM

The hard question, what to do. In many ways it sounds really simple. Love for me, or my children's future. The children's future wins. But secondly, if you do not love the second guy, but go with him because he is finallyLyecure, the kids and you lose out. if you are not happy, The two of you will eventially fall apart. And you go back to step one, again. Sorry, not much help.

rabbit1986 · #4 (**permalink**) 05-20-2010, 04:02 PM

Money doesn't bring happiness in Ly, wait 4 Ur tum to b wealthy & take care of Ur own children. Why do u always want to b taken care of & dint stand upon4 itself?

sky walker · #5 (**permalink**) 05-23-2010, 04:02 PM

Currently, you should concentrate on taking care of your children and keeping yourself healthy and your thinking rational. If your husband has capital for business, talk to him and find out what he is doing to make money because you will need to know what resources he is working with whether you stay married to him or not. Right now, you do not need to become entangled with another man, especially one you do not love. The needs or your children and yourself should come first. You must take charge of your own life and stop depending on men to carry you. You do not need confusion.

~FetishChick~ · #6 (**permalink**) 05-24-2010, 04:02 PM

your fears are real you should sacrifice everything for your kids everything for you comes after your kids. try counsel ling your hubby try to resolve your problems one by one. the man of whom you are talking at present may not be of any help he may use your emotions to satisfy his lust. i feel you should stop financing your hubby and make him work by counsel ling and not by force or quarrel of some type