Help! I love but want to leave an unstable person. Need advice ASAP.?

Tamar · #1 (**permalink**) 01-01-2009, 03:03 PM

I separated with my wife of 17 years 4 1/2 months ago to be with another lady. I love her but I'm finding out that she isn't as emotionally stable as I thought she would be (it started out as a Internet friendship that we've had for 3 years). If she gets pissed off at me, she breaks things, yells and curses at me. I want to get back together with my wife again but I don't know how to leave this unstable woman. She's threatened to kill me and commit suicide. I love her but I don't know how to deal with her emotional highs and lows. Help! I don't know what to do. She says that we are soul mates and were meant for each other but she also says that if I don't pick her over my wife, she'll sue me for all my money and will hurt me physically and emotionally. The situation is getting worse and I am unsure of what her mood will be daily.

brickmen · #2 (**permalink**) 01-06-2009, 03:03 PM

Try getting her on some pixel

pinkjet · #3 (**permalink**) 01-09-2009, 03:03 PM

Um. It sounds like you've got a real whack job on your hands. You left your wife of 17 years to have a Lifetime Movie Network-fling with a psycho you met on the Internet? Not a good choice, man.
Don't be surprised if your wife has moved on.
As for the psycho, you're just going to have to let her go. You are not responsible for her actions. RUN! and possibly consider a restraining order.
GOOD LUCK!

puppy7077 · #4 (**permalink**) 01-13-2009, 03:03 PM

Well, it sounds to me like your lady friend should be on some kind of medication. She sounds bipolar, and i know this because I'm bipolar. the thing that worries me the most though is you separated from your wife, was it because things got too difficult, and now you're talking about leaving this woman because things are difficult. My outlook is that maybe when things get too hard and aren't as simple as they used to be you look for a reason to bail. Not being harsh just wanting you to look deeper inside yourself and ask could that be a possible reality. Another question...was or is the grass always greener on the other side after the sunlight leaves.

Chihuahua Magic · #5 (**permalink**) 01-14-2009, 03:03 PM

just pack your stuff up and leave. Let her try to sue you there isn't many grounds she can. As far as her threats of physically hurting you i would call the cops and get a restraining order. Get away from her as fast as you can and go back to your wife if she will let you. Get a restrain order on her get away from her and forget she exists. if she tries to sue you let her. Any messages she writes you are calls she makes to you save as evidence of how unstable she is and she will have no case what so ever. BUT GET OUT NOW pack your crap when she is out and get out as soon as you can.

Teesha · #6 (**permalink**) 01-18-2009, 03:03 PM

U realize now u gave up Ur happy home, If she does take u back . Just go n leave Waco behind. Take her to the hospital make sure they keep her to be evaluated. move back in with the wife