I have a boyfriend but I'm still in love with someone who didn't treat me good whatsoever. Advice?

KTsays'SMILE':D · #1 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 06:41 AM

I have a new boyfriend, we've been going out for almost a month now. And I'm still not over this boy that I'm really in love with, that only wanted me for sex and cheated on his girlfriend for me that he was going out with for a year. It's just my new boyfriend shows me off to his friends and kisses and hugs me and takes me out to eat, and is going to do something really special for my Bay and while the boy I'm in love with treated me bad, and never did anything for me unless he wanted something in return, which i never gave to him. Why can't I move on, and how can I .?

venu532 · #2 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 06:41 AM

you can't move on because you let him use your body for sex and you are not used to a relationship outside of sex.

milly t · #3 (**permalink**) 12-30-2008, 06:41 AM

It takes time, but don't go running back in to the arms of that douche bag.

Darrell B · #4 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 06:41 AM

You need to remember you deserve respect. Why do you want to be with someone who just uses you over someone who is currently showing you the world and treating u with the respect you deserve?

ned1wils · #5 (**permalink**) 01-06-2009, 06:41 AM

i no exactly how you feel Hun. this guy did this same to me and for some stupid reason i be lived he would finish his ff for me. but now I'm really liking this over Huey. were not seeing or out because off a complicated situation but i will be soon. but i just cant get over him, he is now moving away. even though i ha vent seen him in a month I'm at breaking point really. but just keep thinking about how great your bf is. but dint use him to get over that other guy. hope everything works out

Tex S · #6 (**permalink**) 01-09-2009, 06:41 AM

Its simple, you just do. simple as it can be. for me, i had to find a reason to be mad at the other person and that solved it. now i know its not really healthy, but what works works, am i right? i mean the other used you, but your still in love? that makes no sense to me, but if you want to discuss it, shoot me an email, i am willing to listen.

Norman · #7 (**permalink**) 01-10-2009, 06:41 AM

You already know the facts that the boy you're in love with is bad. You KNOW that he would cheat on you too if you were ever to be with him. You need to love yourself. Your feelings are looking for trouble and if you can love who you are as a person, you can find it in you to love your boyfriend. He's great! And you know it! Move on forward. Don't think about the past, you're thinking too much!
Time heals all. Don't look for the bad boy, and these feelings of love will go away, you just got to find the will power. Plus, you've only been with your current boyfriend for a month. Give it time, you'll fall for him. Trust me, I was in a kind of similar situation as you and ended up going around with my boyfriend 4 years!