Tonight has to be the worst night of my life. I am desperate for love advice. What is wrong with me or what am?
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Tonight has to be the worst night of my life. I am desperate for love advice. What is wrong with me or what am?
..or what am I doing wrong?
My two biggest fears in life are failure, never being loved (never getting married), and being embarrassed or laughed at. I feel all of these right now.
I am 18 and Ive never had sex, never been kissed or ever had a boyfriend. I went to an all girls high school so most of my classmates where in the same predicament as me. Now that I'm a freshman in college I feel like I'm the odd one out. In high school guys never really approached me maybe once at a dance but not really. They usually tell their friends that I'm pretty/attractive/Hort or they just stare at me/check me out but never make a move. In college guy actually started approaching me, while more than usual. I am really shy and I don?t know how to talk to guys so I don?t feel comfortable making the first move. None of them mattered out of 8,000 students 75% female and 25% male (more than half the male population are gay) there is/was only one guy that stood out. He was not what I usually go for probably cause he?s the typical ?tall 6?6, freckly, brown eyed, basketball player whose nothing short of adorable? from what I hear he?s not like the rest of his teammates, hes really funny and down to earth. From the first moment I saw he we both only noticed each other, we checked each other out and our jaw dropped. Long story short from every time we saw each other til now this happens. My friends saw he ?looks at me like I'm the ?one? and he stares at me a lot and for the whole time we?re in the same room. He stands by the stair before his class everyday cause he knows during my class break I get tea everyday and leans over the banister to watch me walk down the stair, get my tea and walk back up. He tried to approach me at a party once but when tried to reach for my arm twice he missed( I was walking in front of him and 2 people told me after the party that he tried to tap me). Anyways we haven?t met officially which sounds crazy but I'm scared that every guy I have approached or took the first step or even talked to I'm have embarrassed myself and regret doing I feel like the fool. I feel like a fool now liking someone to the point in which I like him and never met him. I found out today on my biff?s face book that he changed his relationship status to ?in a relationship? I feel once again embarrassed, a fool, angry, like I failed once again. I don?t know why guys don?t approach me but love to approach other girls. What am I doing wrong? What would you have done? Advice please help I feel like a crazy person Ive never felt this way but I feel like im always going to be alone and all I want in life is to share my life with someone.
i posted "My crush changed his status from single to in a relationship but his friends comments seem to take it as a joke?"
most said he was joking but here is the link
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoDl8K9fMlI1iH6umuClQnfsy6IX;_ylv=3?qid =20101216220854AAsrgKo
You are a love addict, meaning you feel as if you need someone to love and love you back. I mean you gotta be happy alone before you can probably make someone else happy. Also if you keep feeling this way, it'll lead to an unhealthy relationship when you do get in one.
Just say hi to the guy, do you have any classes together or absolutely anything in common? Don't worry about any relationship status he posted on FBI (you're not sleeping with him, just talking to him!). Start going to basketball games or something, you'll meet him eventually. Just ask him if he wants to get tea with you on your way to get some. Sorry some of you other answerer's-but seriously why is it indicative of some personal shortcoming that this girl wants a boyfriend?! I don't necessarily think she's a love addict, she hasn't had a boyfriend-she went to a girl's school for goodness sake (she didn't have the easy familiar interactions with guys that people who go to coed schools get)! It would be hard to understand the opposite sex if you didn't interact with them often. I don't think its weird for the girl to want some kind of relationship at the age of 18 and it's not weird that she would be confused as to why the relationship thing wasn't working out for her if she was never taught how to interact with the opposite sex in normal socially approved way.
By the looks of your post, Mark is right. I'm 18, never had a boyfriend and could care less. Find other things that interest you and you won't be so depressed.