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I'm 21 and she's 17
I'm in the Army and deployed and she's a senior in Highschool
I'm deployed away from home state and after deployment I'm going back to where I'm stationed ( about 950 miles away from home )
I've known her for just 7 months, dated for just 3..and seen her in person for 2 weeks. ( we broke up when I got deployed )
She's already has a new boyfriend..
Pro's with her : She's pretty and I *think* she makes me happy ( despite the constant arguing , her ignoring me because her parents didn't want her talking to me, shit talking, etc.. )
Con's with her : I don't like the way she dresses ( duress's down, doesn't like to wear fashionable clothes ) She smokes weed ( no go..) She likes to hunt, ATV, snowboard, fish..basically outdoorsy/manly things, She's got an attitude if like you piss her off then she'll just stop talking to you, she took her senior year pictures wearing hunting boots while sitting on an ATV wearing a Cammi/wooded t-shirt..never even took classy *girl* pictures and that bothered me, Her parents hate me, my parents don't like her, She's 17, Still in Highschool..
With all the con's i still think about her but I know I could never date her..but why do i *think* I still have feelings for her? Do I need to come home from this deployment and things will get better once I can just go out like she can?...
You're stranded somewhere and thinking about what you used to have, because you have nothing else going on currently. When you get home and start dating someone more like you you'll feel much, much better.
I think that it has more to do with the fact that you are deployed and far from home, and probably don't have any ability to date anyone where you are currently. It's nice to think that you have "a girl back home" but you already know that this girl isn't for you. The only pro you listed was that she's pretty. Everything else is qualified. And the con list goes on and on and on.
I know that you want to have someone in your life, and someone to have a future with, but please don't pin your hopes on a 17 year old girl who you only saw in person for 2 weeks, and who already has a new bf.
When you get home from deployment, find someone new too, preferably someone more compatible.
you just want what you can't have. and DAMN do i hate when boys say oh i don't like the way she dresses. as if that's even important. i hate that you don't think a girl should dress comfortably and how she wishes. although the Cami thing sounds TERRIBLE.
but basically the only pro you had to say about her is she's pretty. so no. you're DEFINITELY not in love.
Dear Heaven!!! You need to concentrate on your friends around you. Go out and have fun. OMG. You are fantasizing that this girl is someone you should be with???! She is someone who has an Axe to grind. She is acting out. She is not going anywhere. You are caught up in the drama around her - please be patient. You will meet someone once you let go of your fantasy with this other girl.
Am I in Love, toss up..Help please...?
