I am in love with someone, but he recently became permanently disabled...HELP!!!?

I am in love with this guy, I want to spend the rest of my life with him, I don't want to be away from him anymore. I am 27 years old and I have known him since University. I have always loved him, but I was too blind to realize it. He felt the same way, he always gave me hints but I never took him seriously. None of us dated a lot during that time or after wards. We were okay being friends.. and we never needed anyone around us. He used to hang out at least twice a week, even though his job was very demanding, he always had time for me. Around last year I started to realized how I felt about him. However, in October he was involved in a terrible car accident, and as a result, he lost his left leg about the knee and became a T10 paraplegic. He has been very depressed, almost suicidal. It is impossible to talk to him, he is always in a terrible mood. I visit him at least once a week, and every time I go to his place he barely talks to me or kicks me out. I love him anyway.. of course it's hard, but I would never leave him, especially right now. I know he needs me, and even if he can't see it right now, I need him as well. I am planning on telling him I love him, but I am not sure about what to do. Will he freak out?, Will he think I pity him? -there is no way I would pity him, he is good looking, smart, has a successful business, etc-. What can I do?? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you really love him then you will have patience, it sounds like you do. You need to put yourself in his shoes, he does not feel like a man, he has lost body parts and can't use the ones that he has very well.This can maybe explain the depression that he is feeling, which would make anyone feel suicidal at times. He will need a lot of time to deal with his accident and the only thing that you can do is be persistent in what you are doing, this will be very hard on you! Make sure that you are around people that support both him and you, show him that you love him, because anyone can say those words, but how many people can actually SHOW them? I don't know if you have any religious beliefs, but I know that will help him as well. If he is a successful person then it will also come out in his will to live, he has only had 4 months to deal with everything that has happened. I would wait to tell him that you love him, but keep showing him in the things that you do and when he kicks you out say "Ok I am here if you need me" and keep reinforcing what you feel. When he has dealt with everything that has happened to him, you will not have tell him you love him, because by then he will know it was love that kept you there and not pity for him. I hope everything works out for you it seems like you really love him and that is rare for today!