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So me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years, never argue and we know that we want to spend the rest of our lives together.
We are both over 16 (I am 18, he is 17) and we have both agreed that we are ready to take the next step in our relationship and make love to one another.
We had his house to ourselves for the night, we said there would be no expectations for the night, it might happen or it might not, and we got protection just in case. We started kissing and we both got very into the mood and agreed that we wanted more.
The thing that I need advice on though it that, being first timers, we were a bit nervous and not really sure what we were doing, he kept just penetrating and then couldn't get any deeper. I was wondering what the best position for the first time would be? One where he can see where he is going but not be too far away from me.
I also think that I might be too small for him, he is fairly well endowed and I worry that I am not wide enough to fit him, is there anything we can do to help this?
p.s please no rude comments, this is a serious emotional thing, I'd really appreciate the advice.
So far, neither of the answers have been what I asked for. . . I said we use protection, I am on the pill and we used a condom. We are both very ready, we have talked about it so much, we just couldn't get the right angle, and I think I am too narrow for him to penetrate properly.
I've heard that the girl on top is a good position. So you're more in control, and you can decide how fast and how gentle/hard you go. Just be very relaxed, if you're tense it can make the first time difficult. I'd recommend you go slow and easy, then it won't hurt as much.
Edit: There's no such thing as too big or too small, it might just be that you're too tense and he's not lubricated. Make sure you use lubricant, you'd be surprised about how much easier things are to do.
The missionary position is the best for the first time, this sounds weird but just open your legs more wide then you normally would so he can maybe fit better.
No such thing as you being too small for him. You might need to try more foreplay to get your muscles relaxed enough.
Missionary can be a good starts position, as can can laying on your side and spooning. Something you might want to try is using a chair, him sitting on the chair and you sitting on him facing him.
It really is something the two of you should discuss and work out what you want. He probably has tons of ideas (all guys do Lil) which he may be shy about to share with you.
You aren't too small for him, that doesn't happen. When aroused, women secrete a mucus from their vagina that makes it easy to slide. You were nervous so your body was not doing that. Consider using a lubricant in the future. Have him rub it on himself prior to penetration.
As far as position, the best one for inexperienced is missionary. It is the most natural and straight forward, and you can look at one another and talk. There is less pressure with missionary - not physical pressure, but emotional.
The event sounds pretty normal to me. The first time is never pleasurable because people are just self conscious and nervous.
easiest position is most definitely missionary but try lifting your legs up in the air ab it as the vagina slopes backwards and it'll make you more in line with each other.
As for him being wide, lots of foreplay, get him to use a few fingers first as this will loosen you up (physically and mentally)
Good luck!
Just go with it.
Just like kissing, it all comes very natural to you. For pain's sake, I would say try missionary for the first few times as you'll be able to control the depth and speed much easier. Foreplay will also help a lot since it will help relax you.
Also, consider using lube. Though you may not think you need it, it will make it less painful for you. Also, keep a towel near by. The whole "blood" thing that everyone talks about during your first time, doesn't always happen, but it can.
i think missionary would be a Lil better.. perhaps? umhum well atleast ur laying down and ur comfortable!! he can slowly enter you.. don't force it!! or else ur gonna have a vag thats in pain and some bleeding and u dont want that.! try a lil lubricant. if the one on the condom isn't enough. ok yeah he may be a lil big but its ur first time.. the first couple of times would be uncomfortable cuz its new. but with the lube it will slide in a lil easier but please dont go to fast... you can hurt yourself.. take ur time.
1st I'd like to say congrats on Ur relationship. sounds like a very good one(:
OK so my advice would be to use lube so that it wont hurt as much and 2ND to let it slide in easier with less friction. i say missionary style would be the best position for the first time because u guys can kiss alto & look into each other eyes. there is also this is other position that the girl lays flat on a bed where her vagina is leveled to the man's penis.. Ur vagina should be at DE edge of the bed & the boy should be standing up than just put ur feet on both sides of his shoulder & its easier for the male to find the hole& also to be more comfortable & get less tired
good luck(:
Advice for the first time making love.?
