Can you offer some advice about love life?

I Seek · #1 (**permalink**) 12-21-2008, 02:21 AM

My friend has a VERY quiet and laid-back personality. How can she put more passion/enthusiasm into her sex life? Should she play-act, to please her boyfriend, and not feel comfortable doing it? Or should her boyfriend just accept her the way she is whether he likes it or not?

wise old,man · #2 (**permalink**) 12-22-2008, 04:39 PM

you should be yourself I mean your friend should be herself

arcanefairy · #3 (**permalink**) 12-23-2008, 02:26 AM

Her sex life will become more sincere and passionate when she and her boyfriend are able to connect more emotionally. If there's pressure there for her to perform in a particular way, that only makes it worse. So to answer your question, no, play-acting is not the answer. If she tries to be someone she's not, she will only put emotional distance between herself and her boyfriend.

snotpuppy · #4 (**permalink**) 12-24-2008, 05:24 AM

Well, this is the way it goes. Unconditionally love in any aspect, will put limits from then on. I'm am 44 years old. I Have been introduced to an area of restrictions of sexual enjoyment, even absence. If you can not be free for inviting pleasure in your life, no matter what it is, then why stress over and climate the very pleasures that should be shared between. Quit thinking about him, you desire and not have to beg for self-existence. LOL

If GOD B4ME · #5 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 08:48 AM

I am assuming that you are the boyfriend? Her boyfriend is dissatisfied with her already and asking her to do things she isn't comfortable doing. I think her boyfriend should move on and let her get a Godly man that cares more about her than the sex he is getting from her. There is much more to relationships than sex and women want the emotional bonding then they may feel more physically playful.

mount_tina · #6 (**permalink**) 12-26-2008, 07:13 PM

Dear Truthseek,Just mind your own Business...

raven7night · #7 (**permalink**) 12-29-2008, 03:02 AM

If she's not very expressive, and doesn't want to be very expressive, there's no reason for her to be acting. Boys are highly overrated - I should know, I am one.If he can't accept her for who she is, he isn't worth the trouble of trying to keep.