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Love question for sociology class please help with your theory?
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Old 12-21-2008, 04:42 AM
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How do you define love? How do you know whenyou have found love and it isn’t only passion? Is it easier to be sexually intimate with someone or emotionally intimate?Do people find it harder to develop sexual or emotional intimacy? Whatis the difference between the two?What does it mean to accept responsibility for your own pleasure orsexuality? What behaviors are implied? Is this the same as takingresponsibility in other areas of life? What might the consequences befor"irresponsible"sexuality? How can you encourage someone else totake responsibility for their own behaviors, or get someone to stoptrying to take responsibility for yours?

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Old 12-22-2008, 01:39 AM
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love is not defined by sex or vice versa.sex is a medium in which love, passion, hate or lust is expressed.
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Old 12-23-2008, 08:40 AM
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1) I define real love as an unconditional feeling that you have for another person.2) I think time is the best way to tell when it's real love and not just passion.3) It depends on the person. If someone likes to be committed then being emotionally intimate would be easier.4) Emotional is harder to develop but it can depend on the couple.That's all I feel like answering.
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Old 12-23-2008, 10:17 PM
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i know this sounds crazy but... my definition of love is that when you can take a dump with the bathroom door open and your wife or hubby is in there brushing teeth or what ever, thats when u know its tru love. what I am trying to say is that when come to the point where you can accept your spouse for all of their nastyiest flaws and their greatest acheivements you know its love. when your spouse is your best friend its love, and most importantly when you love your time with your spouse as much as away from your spouse. thats true love. Cuz men dont like clingy women and women dont like men that dont like being around them. so if you can find that middle ground then thats great.
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Old 12-24-2008, 07:02 AM
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wow missy, i havent been asked that many questions since i joined the marine corp, love is God, when u meet someone and sex is not the reason u caint live with out them, then u are in love with that person,if u caint wait to get home to have sex with ur partner, then thats sexuall imtimacy, but if u caint wait to get home because u love the person and want to be with him or her, then thats the other, thats a relationship that will last
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Old 12-24-2008, 07:11 AM
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Love is something that flutters in your stomach every time he makes eye contact with you. Love is when he does something really stupid and you forgive him for it.It's not just passion when he spends holidays with your family, when he still wants to be in the same room as you are even if your pms'ing. It's not just passion when your dad calls cause his fence is broken and your husband fixes it.sexual intimacy and emotional intimacy go hand in hand. I find it harder to development emotional because a lot of times I lack compassion.Accepting responsibility for my own pleasure? I'm not sure i understand the context of the question. If someone is used to blaming others for the way they are then they'll never own up to the fact the problem really starts with him or her self. If they do this in one area of their life most likely it plays are role in every area. For instance- My dad is sick and I moved away to provide a better future for my family. Inevitably though he's been sick for a very long time I'll be the one blamed for killing him. No one will see the sacrifice I made- only how it effects them.No one will take responsibility if they don't want to or know how. It's something we aren't taught in school; it is what we learn at home. If I never take responsibility for the things I do and am always saying"if she didn't this wouldn't have"then my daughter is always going to blame others for the way she is.
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Old 12-25-2008, 08:12 PM
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No offense meant but I hope this isn't High School Sociology, and if not, I'm dumdfounded that you ask?Love cannot be defined in any consensus. It's an irrational, ill defined emotion, even by Webster. It is what it is in various ways individually ane experiencially, and not put in any category, or strictly confined box, or file system.It often begins as Lust at the very least, perhaps leading to a deeper interest and exploration. It is a passion but need no always be the heated sweat of sex. If any are"emotionally"intimate, as opposed to casually intimate in a library sharing of the love of books sense, I suggest they will at some point become sexually intimate. SEX should be about emotion, YIKES what can be differetiated?AH acceptance. Obviously, and to address the sentence, we all have the ability to self gratify. Dies that fulfill us? Perhaps in some cases, but usually leads to exploring other options. Sexuality preferences debates go on all the time, and here is not the place to offre any substantive answers. We all have primal urges, latent or otherwise, and they can, or do surface in situations. Behaviors also cannot be defined geerally, they are individual, often subjective, again depending on situations or circumstances.The last sentence is also a very narrow suggestion of who and what and can't strictly be answered here in a blanket sense. To encourage, do you mean convert another to your way of thinking? Your moral judgement process? AND what right have you to do so,or how does anothers judgement affect you personally?Ah Ok and finally there is the suggestion that someone is intruding into anothers life, thought process, and sense of free will. You cannot MAKE another do what they choose not to do, nor should you try. The object, or process of living ones own life is all about Tolerance, acceptance. some risks and consequences and compromise that isn't strictly degrading. Beyond that I seem to recall that Abraham Lincoln freed the slaves in 1865.CherylDon't get me startedOh LOLOL, TY Angel and I hope it's Ok I used you as a lifeline
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Old 12-26-2008, 10:54 PM
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Love: A feeling of overwhelming joy. Being with the other just makes you feel happy, and content. It kinda feels like a piece of a puzzle that completes you.Only time can tell if it'd love or passion. Love endures...passion fades in time.I think it's easier to be sexually intimate because many people are afraid to show or feel their emotions.Emotional intimacy I believe is harder because like I said before, some people can't show their feelings. It takes a big leap of faith to open your heart to another always knowing there's a possibility you're going to get hurt.Sexual intimacy is purely physical. If it feels good, it makes you happy. Emotional intimacy is when you open your heart and let the other in. It makes you happy just to think about that person, and you want to be a part of his/her life.To take responsibility for your own sexuality is to be true to who you are. If you are gay, bi, straight...whatever, be true to who you are. Don't try to talk yourself into being something the world thinks you should be. As far as pleasure, if you are true to yourself and can communicate your wishes to your mate, then tell them what is pleasurable to you. They can't read your mind, tell them.I believe it's the same as taking responsibility for other aspects of your life. Only you can decide where life takes you..physically, emotionally, financially and spiritually.Irresponsible sexuality can be several things. Maybe you have one night stands with several people. Maybe you have sex with a male all the while knowing a female is what you desire. Unprotected sex with several people is irresponsible, lying to yourself and others about what you want and need is also irresponsible.It's hard to get someone to take responsibility for their behavior if they don't see anything wrong with what they are doing. You can try to talk to them, but only they can change their behavior. When someone tries to take responsibility for your behaviors, listen to what they have to say. Sometimes someone will notice something about you that you just don't see. If someone has an objective opinion, it couldn't hurt to listen, but the ultimate responsibility for your own sexuality, and your behavior is yours. Do what makes you happy and comfortable, Like I've said before...just be you!Wow, lots of questions...hopefully I've helped a bit here. Good luck in your Sociology class!
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Old 01-02-2009, 10:14 PM
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you use different heads for each ... lol

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