Is this too soon to propose to the woman i love? Advice?
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Is this too soon to propose to the woman i love? Advice?
Im 32, in a touring band and have been friends with this certain girl who is 7yrs younger than me, I've known her since she was 17, She was engaged but the broke up before Christmas after 6yrs of dating. We are really close and i try to be there for her whenever she needs me, I always told her i had feelings for her even when i had girlfriends myself and she was engaged i always knew she is the one I'm meant to be with, Im really in love with her. I always tell her shes my good luck charm, she has such a beautiful personality, charisma and creativity, I can't help writing songs about her lately. She travels with me a lot and i look after everything she needs, we always share the same hotel room at her request but never had any sexual encounters apart from kissing although i admit a few times i really wanted it to go further but never made a move. She tells me i treat her like shes the only woman in the world that exists and i always hold her hand if we are in a huge crowd so i don't 'lose her', I tell her how much of a beautiful person she is and she said she has started to develop really strong feelings for me. My favorite things in the world is being with her. Im finding it hard to be around her lately as i want to be with her so much, when she is asleep beside me i just look at her and smile, if we are watching TV she sits beside me and cuddles into me i get quiet but just want to scream how much i adore her. I want to spend the rest of my life with her, I'd give anything to make love to her and make her mine forever, I really want to propose to her but I'm terrified I'm gonna lose her. Any advice on this would be great.
I think you should go for it. It sounds like you already have a really good relationship and I think an engagement would only make the bond stronger. I wish you luck with her and the band.
Yeah... maybe you should ask her out on a DATE before you ask to marry you, jeez....
Besides, you clearly would not give anything to make her yours, because you won't even sacrifice your dignity until you're sure she'll say yes. If you meant it at all you would take the risk because being with her would outweigh anything else, but instead you just whinge on the Internet like a little girl.
Okay, first of all, ignore what people say about her being too young. I have known happy couples that are ten years apart. More than that could cause some problems...but whatever. You two seem like you are really happy together. According to what you wrote, you both love each other dearly, and that is a big bonus in any relationship. Genuine snuggling, that is another great thing; you can be around each other without feeling like you need to do something spectacular to impress the other. Snuggling is an awesome show of affection, and very personal. Another point for you guys. Holding hands and all the other things point to the fact that you guys really love each other. If you are still nervous about whether or not she is ready for you, maybe take her on a date or two to a restaurant, a movie, a dance, anything. Some programs provide couples dances, you might have to look a little. But small things that bring you two together. Maybe go to a city for a day, see the tourist attractions, I know it sounds silly, but many people I know love doing things like that with their loved one. When you feel that you two are the closest you can be, propose to her! You are in a band, you can come up with some creative and sweet way to propose:
1. Perform a song about all of the memories you've shared with her, how you've gotten so close, but make your "lover" in the song anonymous, leave her sort of guessing, and then at the end of the song, present her with the engagement ring. If a guy ever does that for me, I'd totally be down with that, it is a very touching way to propose.
2. You can take her to some place that she loves, maybe she loves the beach or take her on a picnic. Sit there for a while, talk, eat, and if you are near a park, push her on the swings, some women enjoy that. I'd personally love it if a guy enjoyed simple things like that, if he didn't feel he had to take me to an expensive 5 star restaurant to impress me. Then make a casual comment on how you two have grown close, and how you can't think of any other woman you'd rather be with. Then you propose!
You obviously love her very much, and she loves you. It takes a lot of guts to propose, but love is a powerful thing, and if you really care about her, and she you, then you two will be a happy couple, and have a great future ahead of you. You even said that you want to make her yours forever. It may not seem like it, but she probably feels that way too, by the way she loves you and stays by your side.
You can look up other ways to propose if you'd like, and I really hope that if and when you propose, she accepts! Best of luck to you! ; )
Is this too soon to propose to the woman i love? Advice?
