I'm bi and have fallen in love with a straight girl - help!?

TheDrummer · #1 (**permalink**) 06-18-2010, 12:29 PM

So, basically I've gone and fallen for one of my friends (who is a girl and I am a girl too, BTW). I have no idea whether to tell her or not because even though I know that she's straight, I can't help but hope (just a little bit) that she might eventually feel the same way. However, this is highly unlikely and I really don't want to ruin our friendship, so do you think I should tell her and get some closer, or should I just move on?
Oh and she doesn't know I'm bi - I'm still coming to terms with it, so I've only told my sister.

Joey T · #2 (**permalink**) 06-19-2010, 12:29 PM

Don't tell her, it will likely freak her out and affect your friendship. In life all of us fall in love with inappropriate people from time to time. I've been in love for 20 years or more with a married friend. I will never ever tell him and I just LentNTo deal with it. Just try to convince yourself that it's just an infatuation that will pass, but your friendship is important and longer lasting than any lust.

Willie B. Hardigan · #3 (**permalink**) 06-21-2010, 12:29 PM

Ive also fallen in love with a straight girl. I need help. I cant do this myself but i have advice for you.If she is a good friend she will understand if you tell her.
GOOD LUCK

uisignorant · #4 (**permalink**) 06-26-2010, 12:29 PM

Don't say anything. I'm bi and I f she is a close friend she might think your close friends because your bi.