3 months relationship and she couldn't love me!? Advice ?

brat_8170 · #1 (**permalink**) 08-08-2010, 01:13 PM

Ok so I was coming back from work and I found that someone added me on face book it was a girl that looked fine and very honest... I talked to her and spent few days chatting before we meet. I met her, she was OK not what I was looking for but she asked me to make for another date and told me that I was really funny and that she doesn't really feel time is passing when we hang out...

Then I asked her if she was interested in the relationship and she said that the answer is obvious, I should have felt so based on all the phone calls , messenger etc...

Each time we hang out ( 5 times in 2 months ) she tells me thank you for this great time I spent with you. She has never showed emotions like I like you or love you and she's very mysterious ( very cold inside, doesn't even cry ). I confessed and told her that I like her and I would like to spend more time with her; she asked me about the reason and told her that she is sweet etc..

The after a disruption on the phone, I started feeling that she was acting weird, late replies etc.. I asked her if she is still interested and confirmed by yes, that's not a question to ask.. Then few days later she wasn't answering her phone, she text messaged me saying, listen , I am sorry but i have no feelings towards you ! cluck you deserve the best !!....

I asked her if there's anyone else in her life and she got mad... She starting talking about me being sometimes nervous on the phone and that she can't love someone who can be nervous !? Im 25 and shes 22.

Was she playing mind tricks on me since the beginning ?

Any advice? thank you.

Bibs · #2 (**permalink**) 08-09-2010, 01:13 PM

You said she's mysterious and cold so I'm going to go out on a limb and say that she originally did like you but when you told her that you wanted more time with her she took you as being a more emotional person and then lost interest. Just an opinion from what I can tell of your description, hope it helps.

thirdbasechic9 · #3 (**permalink**) 08-10-2010, 01:13 PM

DE_ em pa
I believe that this girl doesn't really have any sort of idea about who she would like in her life.
If her coldness etc is something you find hard to deal with then i would suggest that you respond in away that IS tact full and polite that she is not your type .
There is something going on deep down inside her that has caused this coldness etc.
And i don't think that she is ready for it ,AN you do not need it either
Ye she was playing head games

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