Used for sex by first love, advice PLEASE?

i would ask him why he is acting the way he is. if no response, just let it go. you're young, there are more fish in the sea. as for losing it to him, in the grand scheme of things it really doesn't matter who you lost it to but who matters to you.

A girl night with your friends will actually make you feel so much better!... trust me

Im so sorry. You never deserved that. I know it might hurt you, but you have to talk to him. You have to find out why he did that. Maybe (and Im sorry if this gets your hopes up) he didn't use you, and he just thought that having sex with you was something that shouldn't have happened yet. He might be distraught and mad at himself. Its just a thought, but either way I would confront him and ask him whats going on. Try not to get angry. I hope everything will be okay.

i would say to him via ... text or face to face ,
why are you acting/treating me like this after i lost my virginity to you ?
if there is no reaction or responce , he is scum and not worth your time ,
you may still love him/loved him , but let him go ,
PLENTY more people you can get and he can't
stay strong <333333333333
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peace+love

How about you talk to him first. It's only been 3 days. Not 3 weeks! I think you are just a little too over emotional at this point. Is he suppose to be stuck up your ***? No, he still has a life and sometimes it gets a little busy.

So, why don't you say to him, "Hey babe, I'm feeling a little insecure and unloved. I need you to do those things you did prior to sex now that we have had sex." Men don't do well with hints. Tell him what you need. If he says to take a hike...well....THEN you know for sure you got used. As of right now you don't know that and you are making assumptions.

abandon him (abandon all ships) and become EM... like me!

LIFE IS AN UNHAPPY PLC FRIEND

I would ask him why he's changed. Maybe something is going on. If he's truly did just use you. You have to get rid of him. Show that you respect care about yourself. And the get over that, you have to spend time with friends, find someone to confide in, flirt with other guys, and keep in mind what he did to you. I don't mean for you to hold on to it, but use that anger and pain to push away from him to the point that you can't stand him.

HE JUST NEED SEX FROM YOU??YOU DON'T had sense to do that after marriage,no pay and spoil some one another life,u ll marry guy and create his life has hell.

Unfortunately, you have probably fallen victim to a player who was after your V-card. My daughter was in a similar situation but things didn't get that far before she found out he had been cheating on her with others and he was only after that one thing.

I will tell you like I told her - anger helps. Get mad, and do NOT blame yourself - blame him. Do not look at him, talk to him, ask about him. Completely rid yourself of him and it will bother him if he ever cared - and you can take some revenge in that. Don't say mean or ugly things (don't lower yourself or be someone you aren't), just don't act like he broke you. He may have taken one thing, but don't give him any more than that. Hold your head up high, and be more careful next time. Keep in mind, he probably told his friends and they might think they can get the same thing - so be on your guard, and keep your self respect.

i know exactly how you feel girl. i am in the same spot now. moving on is hard and doesn't really get easier but time heals all wounds. have you told him how you feel? i would talk to him and see what he says

first off I'm so sorry that has to suck so bad i feel for you i was always scared of this happening to me anyways it is what it is if your religious maybe go to the church and get purified or reborn either way if it would make you feel better but i would talk to him and say did you seriously play me like that or are you just feeling guilty about having sex if he says he played you id punch him in the face cause he will do it to other girls and he has to be stopped at one point in time i had a bf who was the first one to touch me down there and then after that he dated me for another week or 2 then ended it i felt horrible and that's all it was not my virginity or anything super serious like that i did int even think i loved him i just could int believe that he used me but it was more my fault cause everyone warned me about him being a man whore and all this so that's my story of getting used maybe it will make you feel better that your not alone

Try to get rid of all memories! Maybe talk to him and find out what happened. He might fell bad or ashamed too! Men are like natural dogs so if he doesn't feel that way don't be surprised. And for the depression make sure your not pregnant and do things that make you happy! One horrible person and experience shouldn't plunge somebody into depression! It's not right! The next few months or so treat yourself like a princess, Every girl is a pr in deep inside. Emo princess whatever you wanna think! Hope this helped! XD

maybe he feels in secured after having sex with you? And the only way for you to find out why he is acting like that is by talking to him.. You shouldn't feel used or ashamed because love blinds you at times specially as teens.. Keep your head up and just talk to him

Start hanging out with your girls. Get tested for STDs and pregnancy. Above all this Ignore,Deny and Insinuate or IDI;Ignore him totally never be alone with him; Deny everything that went deeper then just friends and Insinuate(only if he is trying to out you) that you wouldn't do that cause he looks like he might have crotch rot and that you're thankful your virginity protects you and you've a recent visit to your Geno to back up your hymen is intact.

Just surround yourself with real friends not fakers out for only their ends.