i honestly feel like i'm never going to fall in love.. any advice?

Allie · #1 (**permalink**) 01-03-2009, 12:56 PM

i love this girl and i thought she liked me too.

we talked for 2 months but i didn't make a move because I'm shy. then we stopped talking and she started see another guy the guy broke up with her and she started talking to me again. last night she was talking to me and asking if i was going out so i told her yes she then asked me if i wanted to walk with her to my friends house party but then changed her mind. i wanted to spend time with her but after all that happened i didn't want to annoy her.

i also wasn't given alto of chances to talk with her tonight and when everyone was leaving my friends party she didn't even want to walk home with me and ins ted started flirting with one of my friends

i ******* hate myself so much right now.... i love this girl but she's playing with me way to much. i hate myself right now and i feel like I'm never going to make any girl happy ever.. =[

I've going to turn 20 in a couple weeks and I've never had an official girlfriend in my life. I'm tired of waiting for someone; it just seems like that's all I've been doing in the love department and it's really starting to effect my self-confidence

anyone got helpful advice???

baltimorerain · #2 (**permalink**) 01-04-2009, 12:56 PM

Maybe you should instigate operation "Opposite Day." So lesson 1: opposite of shy is outgoing. Now your turn.

bluffho · #3 (**permalink**) 01-05-2009, 12:56 PM

Look love is not something you find . it finds you when you least expect it
this trick your in "love" with -stop talking to her , she isn't healthy for you and she obviously wants you as a boy toy nothing more
go out with some friends to some clubs or parties and mingle
you can walk around the mall and hit up a Starbucks or something maybe something will happen who knows , but you can't look for it

if you want you can sign up on free sites like tagged.com or plenty offish.com
they offer local singles

don't be down about it . think of it as empowering . you don't have anyone weighing you down -you can do what you like without being glued to your phone

at some point love will find you

best wishes

SwiftDragonfly · #4 (**permalink**) 01-06-2009, 12:56 PM

what is love but the strangest of feelings..
you're a shy and emotional kind of guy, romantic too probably. you're only 20, you don't need to find the love of your life straight away. go out, meet new people. I used to be just like you, always the silent shy girl. One day I decided to be more outgoing, I started to fake my self conscience and one friend convinced me I should convince myself that I'm a fem me fa tale and that I'm a very charismatic person. Turns out I have become one.
So go for it, flirt randomly, AKe chances. Ask her to go out, perhaps a lunch or movies, anything you love doing. Good luck shy guy