Does REALLY want ME? OR am I JUST HIS STANDBY GIRL??? I NEED LOVE ADVICE PLEASE!!!?

ugh sounds like he's using you shush i know how that feels all to well >.< so wry Hun

Maybe your being too clingy and he just wants a little space, try talking/asking him about it.

Read the book "He's Just Not That Into You". It will revolutionize the way you think about guys!

you put him in an uncomfortable situation forcing him to decide what you mean to him before he was ready to decide. now he feels pressured to find that answer. he is afraid of commitment, and most likely afraid of hurting you if its not the answer your looking for... so hes taking the space he needs to find a solution, and honestly by asking that question before he was ready to hear it may have pushed him away. him mentioning another girl, and coming up with an excuse not to be with her should be a red-flag letting you know he is looking elsewhere, and it may be best for you two to go your separate ways before someone were to get hurt more so.

He doesn't see you as more than a friend, because you haven't made the move yet! He wants you, but you have to make the initiative to be with him!

He has one problem with this girl, but he has no problems cooling it with you. I think he's waiting to see what she will do next. Yeah, it sounds like you're on standby.

He's using you. He's just flirting with you and not trying to understand how you feel. He's trying to fall you into his trap and making you regret in the end. he's not worth of your time...forget him...

I was in a situation like that and he may only see you as a friend for now. And I think you rushed it when you said what are "we" it's only been 3m so my advice is just take it slow and if he really likes you, you would know.

sounds like a really shy guy. u should give him up, because he is not appreciating u. Also he is trying to break up with u the way it sounds

Okay, so you really like him, whats already happened has already happened and you can't change the past so lets talk about what you can do know. Which is be honest and open, ask him why or what he felt when u asked him that and make him feel comfortable by asking him if it bothered him. Sometimes when guys hear a girl they really like say something serious it makes them think.. "Wow she really likes me to" and they will either play mind games and hard to get, or they will kinda freak out and back out. Sometimes guys bounce Baku after they realize it was a question or they go and find it takes to much effort to try and make you realize "it's just a guy thing" But then girl no worries any guy that doesn't make you worth his time really is not worth yours. Its stupid having people say threes other guys out there, which there are Lil. You may really like/liked this guy take advantage of it. Take all the good qualities you liked from him and all the bad and go find yourself the same guy with just less bad qualities. If it was meant to be it'll fall into place it just takes time, and never forget *BOYS ARE NOT WORTH OUR TEARS*

You've got yourself a guy who doesn't have a lot of relationship experience (or else he would have seen this coming), and you are getting ahead of him in looking to the future.

Here are the clues:
1) He panics when you ask him to express his feelings. He was probably telling the truth when he said he doesn't know. He is enjoying your company in the moment, which is typical of guys, with little thought of where it is all headed.
2) He prefers texts, which indicates that he probably hates the pressure to make romantic, witty, interesting conversation on the spot. Texts give him time to think. Plus, texts naturally lend themselves to brief exchanges. Some people, especially guys, HATE to talk on the phone.

Hope this helps.

I think the way we as women go about that question in the wrong way. If you felt like you wanted a relationship with him because you were falling for him or in love (ID), maybe you should have asked him straightforward if he felt like being in a relationship right now and if he would consider being in a relationship with you not sending a text asking what you are to him because then that feels like he is being pressured to give an answer right then. I feel he became afraid of answering that the wrong way or felt he did and felt he had to back off OR he didn't feel that exact same way at that time( not that he wouldn't ever feel that way) and felt he had to distant himself. But I just think their is nothing wrong with asking a guy to be your boyfriend if you feel that way, don't wait on him to validate what you two are. Ask him, and if he doesn't except then there is your answer, then move on.

He's not into you. He is probably using you or what.