My boyfriend cheated on my with my best friend but I still love him help?

passionate_warrior03 · #1 (**permalink**) 06-04-2010, 02:13 PM

This question has probably effect most girls.
I've been dating my guy for about 7-8 months. I am deeply in love with him.
He's like my second half. I love him so much. but recently he has been distant and he had blamed his depression for it. So I left him alone for a little bit.
Just recently, he told me he kissed someone and he started apologizing profusely, which to me means that there's something more. B/c I said I forgive for kissing someone.
Then my gut was telling me that he was hiding something and I found out that he had cheated on me with my best friend when we were first going out (probably the first 2-3 months)
I had a long talk with him and I forgave him b/c he had the balls to come clean with him.
and If i were to dump him, i would be cheating myself b/c I have such strong feelings for him.
I've never actually told a guy that I'm in love with them so this relationship is something i want to keep. but at the same time, i dint know what to do.
I talked to him after this discussion to try to put it behind us but then he became unresponsive during the call even though he was the one who asked to call me.
I don't know if he's taking me for granted or something else.
I know for a fact that he is genuinely and deeply sorry for what he has done but if he keeps distancing himself, i don't know how to keep this relationship alive.

Any advice y'all can give me please?

goingforthegold · #2 (**permalink**) 06-09-2010, 02:13 PM

This may not be what you want to hear but it sounds like your relationship is coming to an end. It all starts with people distancing themselves. For me, cheating is an automatic red flag to end a relationship, but he seemed deeply sorry. If he is distancing himself, you shouldn't be forcing a relationship to stay alive.

devils_path656 · #3 (**permalink**) 06-11-2010, 02:13 PM

Since you love him dearly, keep forgiving him.

gabs4_28 · #4 (**permalink**) 06-12-2010, 02:13 PM

Well i think you should not be with him because it pretty clear he doesn't love you . cause he cheated but i do give him props from telling you the truth. but it wasn't right for him. anyway if he was really right for you he wouldn't have cheated

jacey a · #5 (**permalink**) 06-13-2010, 02:13 PM

I wouldn't care if he cheated on me with a fat girl vs my bf, wt is wrong with you are you that WEAK?
H E L L O, he cheated on which means he never WAS IN LOVE with you anyway, to be so desperate? Guys love Chic's like you...know why...Cuz you let them cheat you get all sad, and then they come back to you CZ you LET THEM grab a brain and add some smart sauce to it GEEZ