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Okay, so i dated this guy for around 6 months, and we broke up a month or two ago because of a big fight. i liked him, but i was no were near in love with him. but he absolutely loved me. after we broke up, for some reason i was weirdly heartbroken. so i opened my Bible and the first verse i read was about how you shouldn't associate with non-believers. and the devotion about it was how you shouldn't date them either because it only ends in heart break. from that moment on, i was no longer heart broken.
and so. but like halfway into our relationship, i would get feel sick whenever we kissed. always. I'd feel nauseous & dizzy and gross. so today we hung out, and he held me in his arms and wouldn't let go. he leaned into kiss me, and the feeling was worse than ever. i full out gagged. i like him, i know i do. i feel like God needs me to get through to him, because i have him totally full out in love with me. but ID. advice ??
Leave religion out of relationships. God doesn't want you to 'get through to him' (meaning convert him, I'm sure). Your boyfriend is in your life so that you can learn to grow beyond the confines of your beliefs and learn to love unconditionally. The challenge is within you, not him.
Religion has nothing to do with it... If you gag when you kiss him, then clearly hes not what you are looking for. But, just because you do not share the same religious views, does not mean you cannot have a lasting relationship. As long as you both respect each others opinions and choices, then a relationship with two different religions should work just fine.
OK, so I take it he's not saved?
No, we shouldn't date non-believers. I have been through a lifetime of dating non-believers and it causes nothing but pain. You think that you can bring them in, but you can't, and why lay yourself on the line like that? The last man I dated was riding the fence on his Christianity. I thought oh boy, he's gonna be encouraged to serve God because I do. Wrong. He cheated on me. :-(
The reason you feel sick is because the Holy Spirit doesn't agree with what you are doing with this guy. I know, I know...he's probably cute and you like him a lot. Pray about it and continue to seek out guidance through the Word like you've been doing, except realize that God's already told you what to do (it won't work with a non-believer). Find someone who is already a believer. You are young probably. There's time.
God does say we should not associate with non-believers, but he wants us to help people to go to Him. Kissing and then feel sick is possibility that God wants you to be friends right now. And you need to know if you feel something for this guy. I think God wants you to find yourself to know if you care for this guy enough to help him to find God in his heart. I hoped I help you, God loves you!=]
If you keep him as "just a friend" it will be tough. I'm a Christian, no bible thump er but a private strong believer. My mom is Christian, dad Jewish. Although it's written to be equally yolked, my mother insisted on raising my brother & I with her faith. No fire & brimstone but we went to church, celebrated Christmas, Easter & Jewish holidays too. (and Jesus was Jewish) With this thinking, years ago I dated a Jewish man who's family was ABSOLUTE on raising the kids with HIS faith. I think what my parents had was rare. They didn't press to change each other, they were BEST friends, madly in love for near 50 years.
Now over many years, I've dated non believers & they will NOT continue dating you unless you are up for sex before marriage. Absolutely not. A God fearing Christian man will respect your faith, you have the comfort of knowing the Lord blesses a Christian couple (devil HATES it because it's so strong though) & I'll bet the devil is relishing over you being with a non Christian man & will temp the heck out of you.
I would get in to your church & others, join some groups, trips or events & pray a lot about it as well. One thing about God is he wants you to trust what he has in store for you, which is his perfect will. Also, it's on HIS time not yours. He knows your heart's desires as well & wouldn't send you anything but exactly who is right for you. If you read your bible & it says something, I would stay on the path & allow it to guide you, it's the one & ONLY thing we can be absolutely 100% certain of. The basis is all about our "faith."
Bigger issues come up with non believers & when your man is looking up & you are looking to him, as it is written, then it's God's will, I read it last week. I think it was in Genisis 2:18-2:24. It defines what marriage is, why & how it is supposed to be. What it was designed for. Also Corinthians 13:13 is your meter, compass & guide to tell whether or not another person is behaving with love. (and you too)
If you do love the Lord, remember love is patient & doesn't insist on its own way. TRUST him, he will NOT steer you wrong.
Christian love advice ? helppp :/?
