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the girl i dated for 1 year and my only serious relationship has gone to college (because i am one year younger) in another state and we're not together for good. I'm almost sure i still love her and every other girl i meet i either hate or cant even compare to her.she has basically pulled me out of depression twice and now I'm back in the worst depression I've ever experienced because of this and other things. I know we wont be back together but i still shut out any other girl in my life that i could potentially have a relationship with. i feel like i wont be ever to get over her and if i completely block her out of my life i know my depression will get worse. i dint want to tell anyone about this but i dint want it to continue. what should i do?
You know I'm sure you have heard this but there are plenty of other fish in the sea. you just gotta get your self together because there are other people out there that you could love just the same. you must continue on with your life i know it is hard trust me i know what you feel but you cant let this get in the way of you trying to be happy. i mean really you being sad about this i mean hey what good is gonna come of it there is no use in wasting your time being sad when you could actually be out there meeting new people and adventuring out into the world which is full of other people. give other people a chance
Seek grief counsel ling from a professional. Breaking up is a great deal like losing someone through death--you go through all the same emotional phases. If you don't want (or can't) go to a grief counselor or find a copy of "On Death and Dying" by Kubler-Ross.
You should stop holding other people accountable for your happiness. What is she supposed to do, NOT go to college because if she does, you'll get depressed again? Not trying to sound mean here, but I just hate this wish-washy nonsense. My advice to you would be to see a therapist and find out why you're so depressed, and to remain single until you make some progress, otherwise you'll just end up meeting another girl and then you'll hold her responsible for your depression just like you're doing with this one.
Hi Chris, please ignore the idiot who commented above.
I am not in your shoes, so I cannot say that I know completely how you feel now. But trust me, I am trying hard to feel your pain. I know how it's a torture to know that the girl you love is gone forever, and things wouldn't be the same anymore. But why did she end the relationship with you just because she is going for college in another state? I believe if the love is strong enough, both of you could still keep in contact via Internet, phone calls, and occasionally drop by the state and visit each other during summer vacation or whatnot. I know a friend of mine who has a boyfriend in New Zealand, and she's living in Asia. They are still doing well and the bond is still very strong. They keep it via welcoming and long hours of conversation on line. You see my point?
But if the lady doesn't appreciate your love, then it means that both of you aren't fated to be together. Everything happens for a reason. When God shuts a door of yours, He has opened another window for you. Perhaps, down the road you'll find somebody who is really nice and cherish you for who you are. We all will never know, and definitely only Time will tell. Right?
Stay a positive attitude, hang out with friends, pick up a new hobby, learn something ..You'll know that life doesn't just revolve around relationships. There are people who care for you and love you too. Good luck, my dear.
The girl i love is gone forever, advice?
