HELP......My friend is in love with a married man and she is in a relationship.....what is she going to do wit?

Nancy Kay · #1 (**permalink**) 06-23-2010, 06:53 PM

My girlfriend has a relationship with a married man and the feelings are mutual....they already gone dating, hugs and kisses etc....and now she is scared, confused, paranoid etc that someday their relationship will end to nothing...but they are aware that their relationship is wrong ... as her friend what best advice i can give to her in a way she will not get hurt or something??

emmy1 · #2 (**permalink**) 06-25-2010, 06:53 PM

your advice is to move get her own man

Jarod M · #3 (**permalink**) 06-27-2010, 06:53 PM

tell her, that he'll never leave his wife for her, if he was, then he would of already done it. Tell her to stop being a home wrecker and move on.

Beautiful Me! · #4 (**permalink**) 06-29-2010, 06:53 PM

its so nice that you are worried about your friend she is lucky to have you..but lets face will she really listen to what you have to say..i dint think so only because people just love to learn things the hard way..and only when its too late do they realize the truth..she has Already crossed the LINE she just hasn't realized it yet..the only thing you can tell her is to be careful and you will always be there for her,CZ trust me when shit hits the fan she is going to need you..and that's so cool you dint judge her,you are a cool person..good luck

Sassette Smurfling · #5 (**permalink**) 07-03-2010, 06:53 PM

Tell her this: "If he'll do that to her, he'll do that to you."

Lyndsay · #6 (**permalink**) 07-05-2010, 06:53 PM

She should be scared, paranoid and confused....Your friend is getting herself into a HUGE mess.
A husband that cheats on his wife.....will cheat on her too....She is going to get hurt over this, big time.
And what about the consequences of his wife finding out....that should be a deal breaker right there.
It can be dangerous messing around with someone Else's man....
Convince her to stop before it is too late....she will be lonely and depressed if she trifles with a married man....It will be nothing but heartache and pain....
If he was a stand-up kind of guy, he would have already LEFT his wife BEFORE starting up with your friend....
This cheating husband is no prize.....she needs to run for the hills...!!!!!

Jan B · #7 (**permalink**) 07-06-2010, 06:53 PM

too late for advice... she needs to stop it now

greentater · #8 (**permalink**) 07-10-2010, 06:53 PM

You have to be the one who is in love with the married man. Why would a person be so paranoid for someone else? First off, it isn't right to have fell in love with a married man- should have never been in that position in the first place. The obvious thing to do is tell your partner you cheated on him break up with him. The married man will then decide whether or not he wants to get a divorce and be with you. Chances are he will never ever leave his wife. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? He has his wife & you his now play toy so nothing will change. You screwed yourself and now will be heart broken. You are also considered a home wrecker.

Paris · #9 (**permalink**) 07-14-2010, 06:53 PM

Who cares if she gets angry? She has no morals. What would u do if this women was doing your husband? Yea right u would kick her butt and when his wife finds out she could get alto worse. So if i was u You tell her to knock it off right now or u will tell his wife and u aren't lying. Tell her to call this man with u being right next to her and tell him " Its over dint contact me again, Period." Like who would want to b friends with someone like that except someone who is like her. If she was my friend i cant begin to tell u what i would say to her, she wouldn't of gotten that far because i cared for her and if she didn't like it she would b no friend of mine. The skunk.

no picture · #10 (**permalink**) 07-18-2010, 06:53 PM

Your friend is right, the relationship will lead to nothing.

Its rare that someone will leave their spouse and family life for their side dish and that is all she is. Once he is bored with your friend, he will move onto someone else. If he wanted to leave his wife he already would have.

It is inevitable that your friend will be hurt and likely she will hit rock bottom before she realizes it.

If this man has children is she prepared for the day his kids (or wife) might walk up to her and asked why she wrecked their home? Especially his children.

The bulk of society will blame not this man who is at fault, but they will blame her and label her a home wrecking whore because that's what she is. If she didn't know he was married that would be different (some men are very good at hiding it) but she does and she knows she is wrong.

One thing even if this man did get a divorce, its no guarantee they would progress to more than sex.

A sure thing is, is if he is willing to cheat on his wife who is a person he made vows to, he's willing to cheat on your friend too.