I think I lost my best friend, he fell in love with me. Any advice?

Ace Of Spades · #1 (**permalink**) 04-20-2010, 07:06 PM

Me best guy friend recently told me that he was in love with me and stopped talking to me. Even though I'm pretty sure I did nothing to lead him on, he thought my feelings were the same and when I told him that I could only see him as a friend he accused me of playing with his feelings. I feel awful, I don't know what to do, he doesn't want to speak to me, and to top it all I know he's hurting because of me. I don't wanna lose his friendship, what can I do? Do you think it can go back the way it was after some time?
I did apologize

R1CK33011 · #2 (**permalink**) 04-23-2010, 07:06 PM

He is hurt and needs time to heal. You did the right thing by being honest. Men see things different from us and that will always be.

Elyse S · #3 (**permalink**) 04-28-2010, 07:06 PM

Sucks huh? Look to yourself. If he is going to accuse you of teasing him, then maybe he needs to be reminded that you are not interested more often. Maybe you secretly feel the same way. Apologize for the possibility that you lead him on. Tell him that you are sorry and that he deserves someone who will love him in the same way. And that as of right now, you are not that person. If you care about him then make sure your intentions are clear, and he is not under the impression that you view your relationship as anything other than a close friendship. Give him some time to cool down, cos chances are that he is very upset. not necessarily at you, but at the fact that you rejected him.

shock me · #4 (**permalink**) 05-01-2010, 07:06 PM

As a guy and not a girl who's trying to understand guys I can say you just need to let it alone. When he starts talking to you again just act like it didn't happen unless he bringing it up. He knows it's not your fault he's just pissed at you. He'll get over it in about a week.

alternative.punk · #5 (**permalink**) 05-02-2010, 07:06 PM

since he's accusing you of it, just apologies for it and give him sometime to heal. And yes it can go back to how it was sometime ago just be patient

jennifer_weisz · #6 (**permalink**) 05-03-2010, 07:06 PM

Yeah he needs to heal. But make sure it doesn't become that love song "Beverly Hills, 90210" drama. Be there for him. Comfort him. He needs you as a friend. Take it from me.

gymnastgirl421 · #7 (**permalink**) 05-07-2010, 07:06 PM

Sorry! it will never be the same,maybe after his heart heals he will be able to come back to you and be friends.

ashley f · #8 (**permalink**) 05-12-2010, 07:06 PM

YOU did NOTHING wrong...so there's no need for you to feel guilty/sad etc. I don't understand why girls DON'T understand that guys CAN'T be JUST FRIENDS! (And I'm a guy,BTW) With guys, it always has to do with sex/love/ whatever. It would be going against the laws of nature...there's NO WAY a guy can ONLY be friends with a girl...in the back of his mind he's always about something more. I know you girls are gonna gimme TD's & say, "Oh, I've got a lot of guy friends & it's NOT sexual." But you don't know what HE'S thinking (& he IS thinking it.) I have a lot of "girl friends" who think we're JUST friends...and though we ARE friends, I'm still thinking of 'more' & that's NOT because I'm a 'sleazy' guy...CZ I'm not...it's only because I'M A GUY.

So DON'T feel guilty/bad thinking YOU did something to lead him on...his HORMONES led him on.