I am falling in love with my best friend and I really need some advice?

TONI D · #1 (**permalink**) 06-20-2010, 07:29 PM

Ok so here is the issue I am having. I am a gay man and my best friend is a straights man. I say straights because of the fact that he seems to have some bi tendencies. Well I am falling hard for him, we have known each other for almost two years now and we are as close as friends as you can get without crossing the sexual boundary line. Now he has told me before that if he were gay or I was a chick we would be perfect together. He has also said that is curious as to whether a man or a woman is better at giving head. Anyway, I have had a lot of straight friends, and they have never acted or said anything like this.

He treats me better then any other boyfriend that I have ever had. We know one another better then anyone else does, even he has said so. We know each other so well that we finish each others sentences and we also can tell what is on the others mind with out even having to ask.

So my question is what should I do? Should I just wait and see if anything develops? Or should I talk to him about it? Or any other advice would be appreciated. Thanks for your help.

Toni M · #2 (**permalink**) 06-25-2010, 07:29 PM

Be his friend.

Direktor · #3 (**permalink**) 06-27-2010, 07:29 PM

I was, and still am, in a situation very similar to this. In the end I decided to tell him that I liked him, and he was fine with it and that's pretty much as far as it went. He still flirts with me and we're still very good friends.

So I guess you can try getting it off your chest if you think that will help, or just wait it out and see if something could developer.

AmberZ1359 · #4 (**permalink**) 06-29-2010, 07:29 PM

If the guy is straight pursuing this will only end badly for you. It will most likely end in him getting some physical pleasure from you but having no respect for you and never falling love with you. That is a recipe for disaster because you will take that as being hope. Except this as a friendship accept it for what it is. or you might end up in a lot of pain. Move on to healthier, romance. Or if you think the guy is bisexual then before you do anything ask him??!!

Alexa · #5 (**permalink**) 07-04-2010, 07:29 PM

Just tell your friend how you feel. The way I see it 4 things can happen
1) He likes you back!! And there you go, perfect relationship
2) He is not gay, but hey he is your best friend right? No secrets anymore. And no more guilty feelings
3) He is gay, but in denial. Well... this one will get really complicated but you can be there for him.
4) He is straight and is just horrified at this. I don't think this one will happen though. I was in the same situation and my best friend was fine with it. We are still best friends. He even got me a birthday present today and took me to Chuck E Cheeses Lil