Do i love my fiance for than he loves me? Advice Needed?

chrnoisgod · #1 (**permalink**) 02-13-2009, 06:35 PM

I have been with my fiance for 5yrs and i love him so much, he is all i think about and i cant get enough of him. Im 24 and he is 26 and is a mechanic and part time rally driver. We have stupid little fights but i can never stay mad at him. We know how to push each others buttons and its like we wont listen to one another without shouting over each other, When i am in bed he always pulls me close to him and tells me he loves me & anywhere we go he always holds my hand, if we are out with friends & i am on the floor with the girls he will just stare at me. Then when we head home he will speed really fast and barely talk to me, when i ask him to slow down he drives faster, that always been his thing if we have an argument out, he speeds back home, when we get home we fight again cause i call him a jerk for scaring me in the car and he will mock me and tell me to relax, that he knows what he's doing. Sometimes if we have a fight we ignore each other for almost a day and then he buys me flowers and apologizes. I cant stand the thought of him being mad at me so i do everything i can to make it up to him, he always tells me he loves me to death. My friends are happy that i am happy with him but are not too fond of his personality. I love him so much but could i be blinded by love? Advice?

garybilobrk · #2 (**permalink**) 02-15-2009, 06:35 PM

During one of his calm days you should tell him about that driving problem. No, you're not blinded with love. If you feel what you're saying you should have an awesome marriage.

Trevor · #3 (**permalink**) 02-17-2009, 06:35 PM

He might b 26 but he is still immature and sorry to say this can take yrs for a man to grow up. Tell him the next time u go out and have a argument u r going to make sure u have money for a taxi or ask someone else to take u home. He thinks its funny and he is using it as a power thing over u, Tell him u will not go out with him anymore because u think he picks fights on purpose that u think he gets off on scarring u.

Beverly B · #4 (**permalink**) 02-22-2009, 06:35 PM

There's something about the drama that gives us a 'head rush' of emotions. Almost like a drug addiction. No, I'm not criticizing you or him!! I've had many relationships that sound like the one you're in right now. I understand what this kind of love feels like, and it's genuine. But! It's also very dangerous because you've been in situations that could seriously hurt you, or worse. Being a passenger in a speeding car, driven by an angry young man is not the way you want to live your life. At least, not in the long run.

Step back, and take a look at all the good and all the bad parts of your relationship with him. If you can say you're riding a roller coaster of emotions from good to crazy bad - then I guarantee you you'll be suffering from depression or broken bones sometime very soon.

Good luck

:) Lovely · #5 (**permalink**) 02-25-2009, 06:35 PM

Try acting like a lady instead of shouting!!! Men respect respectable women not women who go around yelling like a little girl!!!

Firetheliar · #6 (**permalink**) 02-27-2009, 06:35 PM

Wow that is a lot of of passion in your relationship. relationship like that is great for sex and you never feel bored but unfortunately they don't work that well when married, where communication and understanding is important. Here is what to do try to avoid the yelling, when you are having a fight ask him to talk it out try to come up with solution to each problem. If he does not like you dancing with your friends then don't do it. Always try to come to solution in the right state of mind. If you are to be married then you want to build a home that is steady and strong not shaky and wild.