what is the best way to help a drunk ? i love this person and he knows when hes drunk he just can't stop?

Hitting rock bottom is the best way to begin to fix the problem. You could also go to Alcohol Anonymous classes, even if he won't go, you can go without him to learn about what he's doing to himself and learn ways to cope with it for you.

You can't.

It's up to him change himself. Often people won't change until they realize they have no home, no job, no family and friends. You can't make him stop.

My question is: how can u love a drunk? A drunk is obviously a person whose mind is out of order, whose feelings, decisions, behavior and acts are subject to something that controls him 100%. which means that what he has become us not his real self but a sort excuse for it. So I wonder, it cannot be him you love but just the fact that being with such a person makes you feel needed...it's called the Florence Nightingale's syndrome this man needs ti be cured by real doctors not by someone who just needs to feel important. So, make sure he gets treated properly, and then once he'll be back to normal you might evaluate if he can be the right man for u.

The best way to help bot him and yourself is to tell him that you truly care for him but cannot tolerate the way he is drinking. If he cannot give up the booze your will not be a party to his self destruction.

Then, you must be true to your word. At the present time you are actually part of his drinking problem.

First let me say Alcohol and drugs additions are diseases and they are very hard to deal with and even harder to kick. Second, no one stops drinking, no matter what you do until they are ready. They have to want help to receive it. What you can do is have positive people in your life that can be support to you and join a group that is equipped to help you learn to live with someone who is an alcoholic. You need to seek help from people who are trained to help you and have been educated in how to handle this disease. I do know this much that I learned from having an alcoholic uncle and x boyfriend...when you don't set boundaries and consequences for people and you continue to pick them up when they fall you are an enabler. An enabler is someone who enables another to persist in destructive behavior (such as substance abuse) by making excuses or by making it possible to avoid the consequences of such behavior. I know you love and care for him but sometimes tough love is in order to help someone. You wouldn't want to love him to his death. Get help for yourself and I hope and pray things work out for you and for him. Good Luck!