Does my boyfriend still love his ex wife? Advice please.?

cpinatsi · #1 (**permalink**) 05-31-2010, 09:40 PM

My boyfriend and I got into a fight the other night. I decided I needed to ask him about what has been bothering me. So I asked if he loved his ex wife more. Immature I know. But it was something I needed off my chest. He replayed and said he couldn't compare us two because he's known her since 5Th grade and they were best Friends in high school, and got married. (They've been divorced 7 years) I was sickened by this so I was about to leave. Then he said that I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him and he loves me more then he has anyone else. We ended up talking things out and everything is fine now, but I keep thinking about what he said!
Do you think he still holds a torch for her?
Do you think its possible for him to love me as much as her when they have shared so much?
Please let me know what you think!

Jake D · #2 (**permalink**) 06-01-2010, 09:40 PM

first, he was married to the woman and has a long history with her. Yes, he still loves her. I am glad he didn't lie to you and tell you that he doesn't. He is honest with you...that's a good thing

Yes, he loves you more than her. Why would he be with you if he didn't?

san · #3 (**permalink**) 06-05-2010, 09:40 PM

Holy Crap....move on!
What an idiot thing to ask him.......
HE is with YOU. Period. End of story....
If you show your immaturity of rekindling the past and put him on the spot, what do you expect????

Of course he loved her THEN......but he loves you more....he has grown as a person with YOU

So grow-up and GROW yourself. Seems to me you needed to get with YOU first, before even getting with HIM.......you need to have more self-respect and love YOURSELF!!!

baby girl · #4 (**permalink**) 06-07-2010, 09:40 PM

Be real! The past is always with us. I am certain that you have a past that at times you think about. This is not a question of love but solely one of memories. We all have a past and live with it.

aag a · #5 (**permalink**) 06-12-2010, 09:40 PM

he would not be with you if he didn't love you. they have a past and your always going to love your first love, no matter what unless there was abuse involved or cheating maybe. so what if he cares about her your the one he's with.

Rhonda I · #6 (**permalink**) 06-17-2010, 09:40 PM

She is is his first love. He will always love her. Doesn't mean he cannot love you as well. It IS different. Given their long history, this is somebody that will always have a special place in his heart. You need to work on your insecurity! it will eat you alive and destroy this relationship!

gabriella2b · #7 (**permalink**) 06-19-2010, 09:40 PM

he doesn't love his ex anymore...
tell him that you'll let him go if he's interested in his ex..
he'll hold on to you more..

monkeyundermypillow · #8 (**permalink**) 06-24-2010, 09:40 PM

Goodness me! He loves you! Let it go. Ofcourse he used to love his ex wife or he wouldn't have been married to her or wouldn't have been a very nice person to marry someone he didn't love.

My boyfriend left his wife of 25 year to be with me after we had a 3 year affair (bad I know), I didn't ask him to, he jut did it because he had fell out of love with her long ago, is in love with me and doesn't want his ex to continue to be miserable with him. But never ever would i ask him if he loved her more, that fact is he is with me because he loves me just like your boyfriend is with you because he loves you. Really, it's not worth the torture.

He's told you that your the best thing to happen to him, why can't you accept that. I accept it because I know it'll just ruin things if I was to nag him in that manner. And guess what, because we don't talk like that we get on like a house on fire.