SHOULD I LOVE HIM OR NOT.... plz help me out.....?

travelerfolio · #1 (**permalink**) 05-25-2010, 10:32 PM

i am a 21 years girl... doing my pg course... my past life is really a tragedy... on joining college i had a boyfriend.. he is my first affair, love, crush everything so i was completely mad on him.... loved him like none can do so... but our relationship did?t long last... due his family situation he married another girl and went off... i was totally depressed on that time... my friends were very supportive to me to make me over come that situation... after few days a guys (who knows all my past) proposed me... at first i did?t accept his love... this continued for more than 6 months... actually I was so scared on that time whether this guy ill do the same which my ex boyfriend did, so I did?t accept... finally one day after a long conversation I accept his love... at first he was very gentle with me... but I found changes in him gradually... he became so rude with me... he started wounding me physically and mentally by saying all past life... alas i asked him when u will trust me and what should I do to make u trust me... he replied that he want to make sex with me.. he said that if I do so he will trust me... at first I was shocked to hear this but I thought that he will change if I do what he said... so I accept even for that... we both had sex... and I had sexual relationship with him from 10 to 15 times... after this happened he was good with me for few days.. But after that again he started the same (wounding me...) I was really fed up... finally I decide to break up with him after tolerating all those nonsense done by him... now it had been 1 year? and I am really happy with my life... in between I got a friend in FBI... he is so nice with me, a man of good character, good knowledge, everything... he consider my words and ask my opinion in doing everything... and 2 days back he said that he loves me... we ever friends for past 6 months.... I had met him 6times and talked for hours and hours in phone... I don?t know about him completely... but yet his moment he is a perfect gentleman... now I don?t know whether to accept his love or not, I feel very guilty to do this... as already I had relationship with 2 guys and moreover I had sex with one of them... I don know what to do...
Is it correct to accept his love??
Or
Let me leave my partner selection with my parents??
And if you say to accept his love... Will it work out??
Should I say him about my past or hide all those?
If I hide, what happens if he comes to know in future? Because I had heard that guys can find easily whether their girl is virgin or not... What happens if he finds that after marriage?
Or
If I say him the truth will he understand or do the same what my ex boyfriend did?
Plz answer all my questions?. I totally confused HELP ME OUT PLZ???

jplrvflyer · #2 (**permalink**) 05-28-2010, 10:32 PM

If you want to be hurt again just accept his l0vie because all regrets are in the end!!

Leah D · #3 (**permalink**) 05-30-2010, 10:32 PM

wow..quite a short story..weal..dont trust people on line..and why are you so desperate to get hurt again??take your time..enjoy life..having bf in life is not everything..

Jena S · #4 (**permalink**) 06-02-2010, 10:32 PM

I would say tell him abet Ur past & if he is gonna accept u than this relation is gonna last for long...
Just dint do the same mistakes u did b4...dint get involved in sex at least for 1 & a half or 2 yrs...
Tell him that this is they reason u dint trust Pol more & u need time 2 heal...

equineriderfourlife · #5 (**permalink**) 06-06-2010, 10:32 PM

Never trust and judge people from networking site. They all are good initially and all they want is physical relationship.

You need to be single for few more years before you find someone that you really want to spend rest of your life.

If I check your old questions, it seems that you are already married? Do you want to have extra marital affair? Please be clear and truthful, if you want advice from people.

Brandi · #6 (**permalink**) 06-10-2010, 10:32 PM

Hmmm...

first of all sorry to hear abet Ur sad break ups..

Sweet u have hit rock bottom ... Pl dint try to go down ..
there is nothing below to go down...
cross Ur heart ask itself... u have tried r/ship with love ,and second time physical
tell me how did they end up ..

i really appreciate u, for being hopeful ...
Ur in India.. I'd say go one with ur parents select.. u know y..
it will work ... he will try to know u and love u..

previously u loved hoping he will marry u.. wat happened..

say for some reason ... close ur eyes.. lets ur parents decide..
trust urself ...

hope this helps

One · #7 (**permalink**) 06-15-2010, 10:32 PM

If u want to settle in life
1. be realistic.
2.be sincere
3. be conscious about your future.
4. Societal consciousness in making your decision will help you .

consider my suggestion with above points in mind.
Try to marry a person who will be with you for next 30 Years.
He must be healthy Physically, Mentally & financially

tucksie · #8 (**permalink**) 06-20-2010, 10:32 PM

'If he is genuine, a perfect gentleman - accept his love!

cernad06 · #9 (**permalink**) 06-25-2010, 10:32 PM

Hi aliyah
U lost Ur Vi to a boy who is just want sex 4rm u & u gave it. without thinking anything when he told U he want to have sex with U then he will tell U that time only U HUD a tight slap to him he broke Ur seal then he moved forward for another girl

Aliya questions for You

A boy who want to spend his life with U, will U be honest with him or not??
Will U start a relation with A big Lie of Ur life, a boy cant bear that his GF slept with any1 else

Boys can guess if the girls are virgin or not.

what aliyah U r 21yrs & u have done a big big mistake
Y u want to go to bed so soon without trusting.

U cant change Ur past but been honest u can trust Ur present BF & tell him the truth.

ALaiya i am SORRY if i said something wrong to U

Tk care girl

Allah a fiz