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My first love broke up with me and its torn me apart, advice please?
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Old 05-16-2010, 11:22 PM
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Default My first love broke up with me and its torn me apart, advice please?

She broke up with me 3 months ago saying she needs to be alone and sort her life out and she realized this after her 21st birthday. Then I find e-mails to her ex 2 weeks after we broke up. We always seemed happy together until a few days before we broke up.

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But anyway my life seems like its gone down hill rapid ally. I was so happy with her, we did so much in the year and a half we were together. We have so many memories and everything I do and everywhere I go reminds me of her. Its must be almost 1 and half months since I spoke to her now and that was only about the money she owes me as people have advised me to go no contact.

I can't see how I'm going to find anyone new, I feel so unattractive at the moment and my confidence is very low. It doesn't really help that my hair is thinning quite badly and I'm only 22. I just wish I could go back to being my happy self and feel ab it more confident like I use to. I've taken peoples advice by going out with friends and joining a gym but I'm still at square one I think. I should be doing work at the moment but this is on my mind and I can't concentrate. Shes always in my mind.

Can anyone advise me what to do now and how I can meet someone new?

Thanks for you time.

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Old 05-20-2010, 11:22 PM
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and so were you like... baby baby baby ooh baby baby bAbby Noooh you'd always be mine
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Old 05-25-2010, 11:22 PM
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Take a stand and tell her you love her. Maybe go out to dinner and if its not meant to be then move on because we should all be with people who love us back. You want her to be happy right? just always be there for her and give her some time to miss you.
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Old 05-27-2010, 11:22 PM
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dude! get that dirt of your shoulder, hold your head up high & get yourself back in the game! She's moved on time you do. Gym's a great confidence builder & so what if your hair is thinning! Why don't you get yourself on a few dating websites, even if its just for a bit of flirting to build up your confidence? Also maybe get yourself a wing man & hit the local bars. If you have a single friend go speed dating, purely for a laugh & to get you talking to other women. If you meet someone then great. Chin up bro!
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Old 05-31-2010, 11:22 PM
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Ok listen up bro... Your EX-ff may have needed some time but no way to break your heart. And she did. If she loved you like deeply and truly, she wouldn't have felt the need to leave you or take a break or any of that crap. So my advice? Go get a picture of her, burn it and flush it down your toilet. You don't need her to live. You've been alive all these months that she wasn't there to share with you. You may have talked about getting married, having kids, having a life together but heck man! Even relationships that last for a week have the same gooey things. The money? Find some way to get it back. Give her a deadline and say you want all the money by then. If she doesn't return, then you call her but only to ask for it. Nothing else. It's time to move on man. Get up, brush yourself off and head towards a different life. STOP fussing about your hair! Doesn't matter... no girl counts the hair or measures its diameter when she's looking for a husband. It's whats inside that matters. Change yourself. This thing has to make you bulletproof (not literally) and not more vulnerable. Hang out more with your friends, your family cause man, they also need you in their life and you need them as well. So forget this person. She was your past, maybe your first love but stop making her look so damn glorious in your mind because while doing so, you're ignoring everything bad about her. So move on. Get a life, get a wife. Go ahead. I repeat: You don't need her.
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Old 06-05-2010, 11:22 PM
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Stand the hell up and look at yourself in the mirror.


Do you like who you see? Yes, you do. Otherwise you wouldn't be trying to fix your problem.




Wipe her out of your mind, and get out there and talk to someone! It doesn't have to be anything special, just say "Hi!". See where it goes from there.

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