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I love my boyfriend but at the same time I dislike him and am resentful and bitter toward him. I get tired of him talking down to be, belittling me, and being an a$$hole to everyone even my friends. He's usually nice to me but I just can't stand to see someone that rude exist. And when he's mean to me, he's mean. During those moments he completely disregards what I say, calls me dumb, and acts BLATANTLY disinterested in what I have to say.
I get moments of rage and hatred toward him. However, I still love him. Am I crazy? What should I do?
cupcake it seems to me u in a situation where when times are good they are really good and when they bad they really bad.you must talk to him and give him alternatives and if he decides to leave then he wasn't worth it in the 1st place but if he tries changing even if its a little then its a start and maybe its something in his past that's causing him to hurt you he may be hurting himself you gotta decide is your love for him strong enough to wait and figure out what the problem is.
Good luck
Well, I'm going to guess that you don't love your boyfriend...
1) You're attracted to him sexually.
2) Maybe you also have become addicted to the intensity of the relationship. A lot of people in dysfunctional relationships have this problem. Everyone likes to get attention. If the attention is someone being mean, then at least it is attention. Then if the mean person apologizes, then that can feel good.
3) Your boyfriend has the control in the relationship. He can make you feel good or bad by being mean or not mean. So he has conditioned you to want his approval. Even though you think he is a jerk, you still want him to like you and approve of you.
Women in abusive relationships often find normal, healthy relationships hard to deal with. Because normal, nice men aren't as intense as abusive ones. Abused women can often feel like a normal man doesn't love her as much as her abusive ex because the normal man is not as intense. There isn't such a GREAT feeling when a normal man says or does something nice, because he never does anything horrible!
The reason I'm telling you all this is because I think you should dump him. He sounds awful and I don't think you can be happy with him. Then you should be very careful to avoid this kind of abusive, roller-coaster relationship in future. Find yourself a calm, normal man and then be careful not to expect the same kind of intense horrible-nice cycle. Good luck.
I love my boyfriend but dislike him. help?
