I am in love with my bestfriend, but I lost my chance once. HELP? 10 points.?

fantacee27 · #1 (**permalink**) 12-19-2008, 10:39 AM

I've been best friends with her since elementary. We've been there for each other through ups and down. Just last year, she confessed to me that she liked me and we shared a kiss. However I was just really shocked that time, and didn't reciprocate. We were cut off for a couple months, cause it was really awkward, and I really missed being around her. a couple months ago, she started talking to me again, and apologized and said our friendship was more important, and didn't wanna ruin it with her mistake. So we've been hanging out again and such, but it's different, b/c I began seeing her as a girl and started dressing nicer for her and such, I was just acting different and weird. I started caring about how I acted (not wanting to look sloppy) and said. Just a months ago, she started going out with someone, and I would constantly get jealous and angry when seeing them intimate. I think I've really fallen for her. What should I do??? PLEASE some serious advice. Thanks.
Is it worth risking our friendship again?

sarahduckiebean · #2 (**permalink**) 12-21-2008, 10:39 AM

Tell her how you feel. Thats basically it. Just.. tell.. her. It doesn't hurt to try.

caffsans · #3 (**permalink**) 12-25-2008, 10:39 AM

just tell her! do not wait until it is too late

gdogbert2 · #4 (**permalink**) 12-28-2008, 10:39 AM

TALK to her!
TELL her that you like her, and that you may be falling in love with her.
Maybe she still has some feelings for you.
Good luck and take care! xix

Purple P · #5 (**permalink**) 01-02-2009, 10:39 AM

i think you need to spend the day with her and end it by admitting you still have feelings for her more than a friend and you think you should give it a try to see how it goes. tell her exactly how you feel about her and how you get jealous. she'll endure in the fact you open up to her, she'll see your true feelings.

Tim C · #6 (**permalink**) 01-04-2009, 10:39 AM

This is hard but tell her how you feel. Tell her you fell in love with her the first time you laud eyes on her but didn't realize it till now. Tell her that you made a mistake before and now seeing how she us hurts you on the inside. Look her in the eyes and ask her to go out with you. If she's stunned and can't say anything then give her a kiss and tell her you've been wanting to do that for a long time. If she rejects you say you will wait for her. Good luck bro and I hope this helps. I really hope you get this girl. I know what it's like bro.

krislphil · #7 (**permalink**) 01-09-2009, 10:39 AM

best option you have is to speak up. tell her that it wasn't a mistake and you just didn't know how to handle it at that time and that you wanted a friendship along with her affection. most likely she still likes you and she just doesn't want you to stop being around her. know that you may end up having to wait till she and her current boyfriend break up (if they do, sorry just being honest) but if she is worth it you will be there for her during her current relationship and if the day comes, after wards.

VivaLaVida · #8 (**permalink**) 01-11-2009, 10:39 AM

I think it's best to be honest with her and tell her?
Don't put pressure on her though... Just explain how you feel and tell her to let you know how she feels in her own time.

sk8erbabe322 · #9 (**permalink**) 01-13-2009, 10:39 AM

Just like everyone else said, you should definitely just tell her, and tell her everything you've been doing for her (dressing nicer etc.) because she'll appreciate that and think its really cute. It's also important that you tell her that at the time you didn't reciprocate just because you were nervous and didn't know what to do, so she'll probably understand that. It might be scary or intimidating to tell her all of this, but she had the guts to do it the first time, so now it's your turn, and the worst that can happen is that she says she doesn't feel the same. If she doesn't tell her you still really want to be friends and do your best not to be awkward or weird about it. Good luck!!

yellowcoatscareme · #10 (**permalink**) 01-16-2009, 10:39 AM

Just have her meet you somewhere together and tell her the same thing you have put in your question:
* like when she said she liked you and when you kissed, that were shocked - tell her why you were shocked
* tell her why you missed her when you were cut off for a couple of months, and what it felt like with her gone
* tell her what it was like being able to talk to her again
* tell her that she shouldn't have apologized for the way she felt and that it wasn't a mistake
* tell her about how you would be dressing nicer and acting different and weird
* and tell her how you get jealous and angry when you see her and her boyfriend together
It is definitely worth risking your friendship for because she risked the same thing when she told you she liked you and kissed you, good luck